We have left Baby MPB with our nanny alone a few times. But only for a few adoption related meetings, work related meetings, when Mr. MPB picked me up from the hospital after my surgery and one mandatory work evening event. Clearly, nothing fun that even resembles romance. In fact, of the things that we’ve done without Baby MPB I’d say work meetings have been the most enjoyable and also not something we do together as a couple. Which probably isn’t a good thing.
I’ve always said once we have kids (yes, naively I always said kids plural), we are going to do weekly date nights after the first few months. I want to be sure that I know my husband and we continue to connect as a couple while raising our kids.
But, today I’ll admit that Mr. MPB and I still have not had a date night since Baby MPB was born. Which means no dinners or movies out just as a couple. The reality is, when it comes down to it, we simply have not made an effort. I can use the classic excuses:
- no family around to help take care of Baby MPB;
- no energy for a date after spending our days attempting to balance our professional responsibilities with our family needs and desires;
- babysitters are expensive;
- we both like spending time with Baby MPB and we like putting Baby MPB to bed ourselves.
If I’m honest, I really do feel like we are struggling a bit with the balance of both working full time and providing Baby MPB with the attention he deserves and the attention we want to give him. My current priority list seems to be:
And, honestly, adding yet another thing to the priority list right now feels overwhelming.
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