So, while I’ve been wanting to travel and explore the world as much as possible before we have children via adoption, it turns out Mr. MPB is doing something very different.
And, I didn’t even notice it.
Evidently I can be a bit slow sometimes.
But, once it was overtly pointed out to me by Mr. MPB himself, it was like a major knock me over, light bulb turned on, ah-ha moment!
Mr. MPB is nesting.
Thanks to his initiative, and my support (which at times has been less then enthusiastic), in the last 6 weeks we have done the following:
- Our garage is now insanely organized. We’ve spent a few weekends building custom shelving, organizing, purging and cleaning. We have a lot of outdoor toys and for years I’ve joked that our kids wont be allowed to have toys of their own because we like our toys too much to share the storage space. It turns out, our kids can now have bikes, scooters, slip and slides because space has been made for their outdoor toys.
- Our second bathroom, the kids bathroom, has now been upgraded enough that it will be good for the next 10-15 years (ideally).
- Our whole house now has new LED lighting. We replaced virtually all the fixtures in the house with some awesome ones I found at Costco. They are so amazing and should last for 25 years. And, as a bonus they are eco-friendly compared to the old ones and we will save some money on our electric bill.
- The nursery is coming together. The room is transforming into a real baby room,.
- Many things we don’t need are being sold on Kijiji/Craig’s List.
- Our next must do before we have kids reno project, our master bathroom which is in desperate need of a new shower (i.e. the current shower leaks and we haven’t used it in a long time) will be started within the next week or so.
It’s fascinating and also almost funny to step back and think about how we have and now are both preparing for our future children. For the last few years, we both wouldn’t do anything to nest. In part because I wasn’t physically able to do much during high risk pregnancies and miscarriages, and in part because we were so afraid to. We were afraid to start making visible changes to our lives in anticipation of children.Our losses resulted in immense fear that we’d never actually have children and once we started having problems maintaining a pregnancy, physically preparing for them simply wasn’t an option as we were protecting our hearts and souls. Naively we had already bought the house, the little green rocking chair and the family friendly cars and we just couldn’t bring ourselves to do anything more.
But everything has changed now that we are adopting – we know, with 100% certainty, that we will eventually have a child. And, we are starting to get excited!
So, now that we are almost through the approval process, we are both getting ready in our own way. I want to run away and make the most of our time as a childless couple while we can. Mr. MPB on the other hand wants to have everything ready for our kids. He wants the house in tip top shape so that we don’t have to spend any time (or money) doing reno projects once we have a baby, he wants to be as ready for the child as possible. (Of course, we don’t want the same thing at the same time – that would just make life too simple).
Now that his nesting has been pointed out to me, I cannot help be realize just how silly my desperate desire to travel is. Also, and more importantly, I once again find myself realizing just how fortunate I am to have married Mr. MPB. Honestly, how cute is he? Seriously, how many men are so excited to have children that they start nesting before the future mom? So, while we don’t even have kids I’m awarding Mr. MPB with the award for awesome parenting skills. I think he deserves a gold star. He’s going to be such an amazing Dad!!
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