A Thought On The Adoption Process
Waiting is hard work!!
We have done everything we can do.
Our medicals are done. Criminal record checks are complete. Our photos are compiled. Our financial statements are in order. We’ve attended all the classes. Our home study is done.
Literally we’ve dotted our i’s and crossed out t’s. Everything has been checked and double checked and in most cases even triple checked.
We are ready.
But the system is not. The convoluted international adoption process is moving slower then we are.
Our paperwork is sitting on a desk somewhere, waiting for someone to read it and sign it.
We aren’t even officially waiting yet, we are still in the paperwork process, but this waiting is slowly gnawing at me. Before I felt like we were doing something, now I just feel like my hands are tied. There is literally nothing I can do to make time speed up. There is literally no-way I can influence anyone to get our stuff looked at quicker. There is no way I can work the system to give us an advantage over someone else. And I suspect if I tried to, it would actually delay us even further.
So, literally we have to wait.
Have I mentioned before that I am a rather impatient person? Patience is not a trait that I excel at.
If the realistic timeline is 2+ months, then don’t tell people it’s about 1 month. Expectations are set based on original estimates. I find my frustration and annoyance increases as the wait drags on past the estimate. Needless to say I despise when people are unnecessarily late. I hate when commitments are made and not upheld. It annoys me to no end when deadlines are given just to be broken.
But my feelings towards this do not matter in the least when it comes to adoption. So, we shall continue to wait.
I have no idea how much longer we will be waiting for.
I have no idea how to help myself learn to be more patient. Maybe it’s time for me to start learning the art of meditation. But that sounds like too much work. So, I think I will be thankful that we are adopting so I can have a glass of wine tonight while twiddling my thumbs as we keep practicing the art of waiting…
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