Everyone says that adoption takes time. Adoption is slow.
Well you know what, we are just at the start of the process and it’s driving me crazy! (FYI, I acknowledge that I have never been known for my patience, in fact I am very well known for my impatience).
We chose our local adoption agency in part because they told us a schedule to anticipate. The first two steps were supposed to go something like this:
Step 1: Submit your paperwork and fees
Step 2: A social worker will be assigned and you will do home study right away. At most there will be a week or two delay if all the social workers are busy.
So, we have stalled out at Step 2. We have been here for over 3 weeks now. Not a word from the agency. Not a single word, not even a simple “there has been a delay” or a “we are still waiting for a social worker to become available.”
But, they sure as heck took our money and processed our payment within a day of dropping off our paperwork.
I get that I shouldn’t complain, a few weeks is not that big of a deal in the scheme of life, and I get that the process is slow, but I didn’t expect a month long delay right out of the gate. I don’t want to call and pester them or neg, as I’m afraid I may start annoying them. It is probably not a good idea annoy them considering we learned early on at the mandatory adoption seminar that they aren’t big on having people question them and so we probably shouldn’t irritate the people who hold the keys to our future family. So, instead we wait without any type of communication.
But, honestly we’ve paid them enough that we deserve some sort of communication! I’m not asking for much, I do not expect a daily or a weekly email or phone call. A simple little email touching base is not a hard thing to accomplish, and would take less then 10 minutes of someone’s time. Seriously, I’d feel a whole heck of a lot better about this delay if they could just send an email to acknowledge that they remember we are alive.
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