As it so happens I haven’t been able to wear my engagement/wedding ring for a few years now. If I put my ring on my wedding finger, within a few days my finger completely freaks out with a rash and it takes months for it to heal.
My immunologist/allergist says it’s due to an allergy to white gold that developed as a result of the hormonal changes I went through while pregnant. I find it laughable that the hormonal changes I went through due to 5 miscarriages also resulted in my inability to wear my wedding ring.
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In the few months when I’ve been out of town for work, I’ve had a few different men hit on me and when I don’t return the flirting they have specifically noted that I don’t wear a wedding ring. Which, because I’m me, turns really awkward as I explain that I’m not interested as I have a husband who I really do like.
It turns out Mr. MPB does not particularly love the stories I share of being hit on when I’m out of town for work. He’s of the opinion we should get me a new ring that I can actually wear.
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Anyways, as a slight aside, when my Dad proposed to my mom, he gave her a plastic ring from a bubble gum machine as the engagement ring. As a kid, I remember going to goldsmiths a few different times with my mom as she looked to get the plastic ring made into a real ring she’d be able wear. Raising 3 kids, she never had the money and she never lived long enough to have the ring made. Since my mom died, I’ve always talked about getting it made for me. And years ago my Dad gave it to me. So, I’ve been saving up my pennies to get it made but now think I should wear it as a substitute wedding ring that I’m not allergic to.
While I still need to save more pennies, I dug the plastic bubble gum machine ring out of it’s storage spot and went to a goldsmith (the same one who Mr. MPB bought a very special ring from a few years ago) to inquire about designing a ring based on my Mom’s plastic ring.
But, the goldsmith was fairly adamant that before we design the ring, we have to figure out what metal I can wear without a reaction.
He suggested I try yellow gold first as it’s actually more pure then the white gold that my wedding/engagement ring are made out of. So he gave me an 14k yellow gold ring he had in his shop to try (literally, he just gave it to me, trusting I’ll return it, which of course I will). I’m trying it for a full month, and 2 weeks in I’m having no reaction. Assuming yellow gold works then we’ll presumably design it out of yellow gold. Otherwise I’m going to have to try platinum, which is of course drastically more expensive. Needless to say I’m hoping the yellow gold will work.
Anyways, I’m kind of excited to wear a wedding ring again and I’m also kind of excited to fulfill something my mom always wanted.
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- I decided to give up alcohol for the month of April. I have no real reason for giving up alcohol, it’s not like we drink a lot (we have a glass of wine with dinner a few times a week). Needless to say, giving up alcohol with a screaming puppy was not a good idea! I totally had a glass of red wine last night after Little MPB went to bed. Maybe I’ll try again in a month or two after the dog learns not to scream and my nerves aren’t shot from said screaming.
- I hate to say this for fear of jinxing it – Little MPB has been healthy ever since he recovered from pneumonia back in January. Does this string of healthy weeks mean we’ve survived the first winter of daycare germs?
- Speaking of pneumonia, we saw Little MPB’s pediatrician again for a check-up. She really doesn’t think the most recent x-rays mean Little MPB has asthma. According to her, first he’s too young to diagnose asthma, especially in the absence of breathing problems. X-rays simply aren’t a reliable diagnostic tool for asthma. Secondly, I guess the second set of x-rays were really bad x-rays because his positioning is so poor – I guess there’s a reason the toddler x-ray torture device is best to use. Otherwise she was very happy with his development and told us to come back in a year, unless something comes up between now and then.
- We just found out Little MPB’s favourite teacher is leaving his daycare and I am so disappointed. She’s the one who leads their potty training efforts, so I’m selfishly very disappointment. But I’m also disappointing for Little MPB as he absolutely adores her. Literally every single morning the very first thing he does is run and give her hugs. I’m so sad for my little boy.
- Doodle MPB went for her first 4 hour long one-on-one training session yesterday. We aren’t expecting an instant miracle, but I am desperately hoping that we will start to see some changes in her obsessive barking. She’s now at the point where if we aren’t in her sight-line while she’s in her x-pen, she doesn’t bark obsessively. Which means as long as we don’t go into our kitchen or use our front door, we have some peace and quite. But, unfortunately we do need to use our kitchen at least a couple times a day. She is also learning to play with a toy in her mouth which seems like a brilliant toddler-dog strategy.
- I’m on the road with work again today – I’ll drive nearly 500km (300miles) round-trip today. Lately I tend to do this at least once per week, if not twice per week. It makes for a lot of time driving. I’ve never been a fan of driving, but I expect today to be extra hard for me as my emotions and anxiety and off the charts due to the events of this last weekend. I drive a smaller Subaru hatchback and I drive a lot of rural roads to get to my client’s offices. But I know all too well that life goes on and I must go to work tomorrow, even if I’d much rather never drive a rural road again.
It’s amazing how much more I worry about driving now thanks to my fear of leaving Little MPB without his mom – I know what that’s like and I just don’t ever want my own child to have to grow up without a parent. Lately I’ve been wanting to get a larger vehicle so that I’m higher up when I’m on the road, While a larger vehicle will be a lot less fuel efficient, it will be a lot safer from a size perspective (i.e. bigger cars tend to stand up a bit better then little cars when it comes to collisions). But now it’s become a much bigger deal in my mind so I’ve become desperate to trade in my car for something bigger. Maybe a Rav4,a Subaru Forester, or a Chevy Equinox. Most likely a few year old one to make this more affordable. Anyone have any thoughts on mid-sizes SUV’s?
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