There is No Chance your Pregnant Again, Right?
The other day when we were at the hospital emergency room for Baby MPB to have tummy x-rays, we all went into the x-ray room for his x-rays. As the x-ray tech took Baby MPB to wrap him with blankets and strap him onto a body board that was perfectly sized for his little body, she indicated that Mr. MPB and I should stand behind some sort of clear partition due to the x-rays. However, as she was leaving the room to take the first image she looked at me, and simply said “mom, there is no chance your pregnant again, right?”
To which, Mr. MPB looked at me with his classic smirk and I almost laughed out loud when I said “nope, not a chance!”
It’s funny, once upon a time that question would have irked me and got under my skin. It would have made me annoyed that I’d have to repeat our history and explain my biology. But this time, I had no reason to share my medical history, and I didn’t feel compelled to tell a complete stranger that Baby MPB is adopted*, so I just didn’t say anything more.
Instead, this time I thought to myself, oh lady, if only you knew who you just asked that to! You see, I’m a rather sarcastic person in real life, and sometimes I am known to have a bit of a sarcastic narrative running through my mind and this was one of those sarcastic moments. I couldn’t help but laugh that me not being pregnant is very much a sure thing. Needless to say I have no doubt in my mind that I’m not pregnant right now, and I truly hope I go the rest of my life without being pregnant again. All things she obviously had no ability to know, and she was just doing her job by asking.
I guess this was the first time in a medical situation that I’ve just been treated as a normal mom, and not as an infertility/recurrent pregnancy loss patient reciting pages of medical history and details about our decision to adopt. And, it was nice to leave all my baggage sitting to the side just this once.
* We don’t hide the fact that Baby MPB is adopted, we are very open about his adoption and our path to become a family. But, we also don’t include his adoption as part of our first conversation with strangers, it’s very much dependent on the circumstances.
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