Regression

Little MPB has been pee potty trained for a while now.  We can go days without a pee accident.  Keys to his potty training success have been simple:

  • We absolutely cannot tell him or suggest to him that he needs to pee.  If we suggest it, he will not go, under any circumstance.  Rather, he tells us. 
  • He prefers to pee on his own – he wants his privacy, and honestly he doesn’t need our help, so why not? (Assuming we are not in a public washroom, in which case, he has to go with either Mr. MPB or I, not matter how much he protests because we believe in being safe).
  • If he asks “where is the bathroom?” in a public place, this is his way of telling us he needs to pee.
  • Standing is best, because that’s how big boys do it.

But, poop is a whole different story.  Half-way through our Hawaii trip, he was 70-80% poop potty trained.  We had lots of time to work with him and no real pressure.  He never liked it, but it was working.  But then, Mr. MPB left, and so did poops in the potty.  He completely, 100% regressed.  To the point of withholding and making himself constipated.  And now adamantly refuses to sit on the potty.  While him and I were in Hawaii, I decided not to stress over it and deal with it when we got home.  But it hasn’t been that easy.  But here’s what happening now:

  • We gave him a gentle laxatives last week to help make it remove constipation from his life, as per doctors orders.  We are also adding flax to anything we can (i.e. pancakes, yogurt, etc.)Pooping is now easier for him, but he still will not sit on the potty to poop. 
  • We are getting his life back to normal to the absolute best of our abilities.  Remove the stress, and make sure he knows both his parents are here with him.
  • He told us he’s scared to poop in the potty.  But, he wont tell us what scares him.  So, we created a poop monster spray to use before poops (i.e. Febreze wrapped in a no monster drawing we made as a family).  But, so far this hasn’t worked.
  • Unless he poops in the potty, he gets absolutely no TV/Tablet and no ice skating.  These are his favourite things in the world, so we hope they will motive him.  Truthfully, these ‘motivator/threats’ have not worked, much to our surprise.  And at this point I’m regretting the skating decision because the weather is so nice right now that it would be great to be outside skating in the evenings.
  • We are not forcing him to use the potty.  We’ve presented him with options, and he can make the choice.
  • We are being stern and matter-of-fact about poops in the potty, but we are not getting mad at him when he doesn’t.  Truthfully, this is unbelievably hard for Mr. MPB and I – we know Little MPB knows what he’s doing at this point, so not loosing our cool is not an easy task.
  • Daycare wants to put him back in a diaper.  We have said absolutely not.  We think he’ll work through this in a few weeks and we don’t want to go back to a diaper.  Its now a daily lecture from his teacher, and it’s pissing me off.  They advertise as a daycare that works with children and families for potty training, and we pay them for this, so I think they can just deal with it for a few weeks.

So, here’s my question, has anyone else had this happen?  What do we do about this regression?  Any advice is welcome advice at this point – okay, not any advice since this is the internet after-all, but almost any advice is welcomed)

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16.5 Hours

At this point, it’s quite clear that 2019 is not my year.  I keep telling myself that there are 11 more months, so there is plenty of time for it all to turn around.  So maybe rather then making a whole year statement, I should probably just say, clearly January 2019 is not my month!!

Anyways, the stress of unknowns in our extended family is currently an ongoing stress.

But last week, we spent the entire week trying to return as much routine and structure as normal to Little MPB’s life.  You know, getting his life back to normal, with both mommy and daddy at home.  Of course, this also meant, Mr. MPB and I also had try to get our lives back to normal as well.  I moved some work things around so I wouldn’t be away over-night, and we made a point to spend every evening as a family.

And we also made a point not to talk about the scary extended family stuff with Little MPB in earshot.  As they do not live in the same city, the situation is not something Little MPB should be stressed about on a daily basis.  He knows his family member is sick and the doctors are taking care of them, and for now, that’s it (when and if things change, we will explain the situation to him as is needed and is age appropriate).

Well, of course, by the end of last week, as much as we were trying to get back to ‘normal’, I got sick with a nasty hold cold.  I literally fell asleep Thursday afternoon for 2 hours.  Then, went to bed early.  Slept until Little MPB got up Friday morning.  Helped get him ready for daycare, then went right back to bed and slept most of the day away.  I literally slept for 16.5 hours in a 24 hour time period!  I didn’t even try to work, I just gave into my body’s need for sleep.  I have to admit, it was the absolute best thing I could have done for myself.  I woke up feeling like a whole new women!

And then, I made the decision to not turn on my computer for the entire weekend!  Both Mr. MPB and I took the weekend to just be a family, at home, in our own comfortable space.

It was glorious.

And so, I truly hope this week will bring more happy and relaxed days to our little family.

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