On a family outing with friends Mr. MPB was recently asked a question:
Why is Little MPB’s skin darker then yours?
This is remarkable for three reasons:
- Someone asked Mr. MPB an adoption related question. Basically no-one asks him questions, they always ask me.
- It was blunt, and it was matter of fact. There was no judgement attached.
- An 8 year old ask it.
The conversation proceeded with:
Mr. MPB: Little MPB is adopted so our skin colours are not the same. Just like your cousin’s are adopted.
8 year old: Oh, okay. And she went off to play with Little MPB and the other kids.
The conversation was done. For her, there was nothing more to say. There was no additional questions or comments. No follow ups like:
- You are amazing people.
- Little MPB is so lucky you adopted him.
- Where did you get him?
- What’s his ethnicity?
- When did you get him?
- Do you still keep in touch with his mom?
- Why did you adopt?
- Maybe now that you’ve adopted, you’ll get pregnant and have one of your own.
I love that there was no major adoption explanations required. I love that there were no invasive questions asked or inappropriate comments made. I love that there was no education required on appropriate language or appropriate questions.
I adore the innocence of children.
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In my short time as a parent, I’ve noticed that kids change and develop new skills almost daily.
There have been some skills that have completely fascinated me, such as speech development. And others that amaze me, like how a 7 week old baby can learn to roll over or how they can literally grow an inch or two over night. These amazing development milestones are things that remind me how thankful I am to be Little MPB’s mom, because without having a kid I would have never have had the opportunity to see all of this first hand.
But I have to admit, Little MPB’s newest “skill” is driving me absolutely batty. He developed it last week while home sick, and we assumed it was just part of being sick. But he’s been healthy now for a few days, and this new “skill” seems to have stayed.
You see, he is now whining about everything. And I do mean everything.
- If he doesn’t get his way, he whines.
- If he changes his mind about something, he whines.
- If he wants a hug or a kiss, he whines instead of coming to get one or even just asking.
I have to wonder, how long is this whining phase going to last? And is there anything we can do to speed him along through it?
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