On a family outing with friends Mr. MPB was recently asked a question:
Why is Little MPB’s skin darker then yours?
This is remarkable for three reasons:
- Someone asked Mr. MPB an adoption related question. Basically no-one asks him questions, they always ask me.
- It was blunt, and it was matter of fact. There was no judgement attached.
- An 8 year old ask it.
The conversation proceeded with:
Mr. MPB: Little MPB is adopted so our skin colours are not the same. Just like your cousin’s are adopted.
8 year old: Oh, okay. And she went off to play with Little MPB and the other kids.
The conversation was done. For her, there was nothing more to say. There was no additional questions or comments. No follow ups like:
- You are amazing people.
- Little MPB is so lucky you adopted him.
- Where did you get him?
- What’s his ethnicity?
- When did you get him?
- Do you still keep in touch with his mom?
- Why did you adopt?
- Maybe now that you’ve adopted, you’ll get pregnant and have one of your own.
I love that there was no major adoption explanations required. I love that there were no invasive questions asked or inappropriate comments made. I love that there was no education required on appropriate language or appropriate questions.
I adore the innocence of children.
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