One thing I have come to expect is odd/poorly worded questions about adoption. It seems to be part of our life now, and we are getting used to it – for better or worse.
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This weekend when we randomly ran into an acquaintance – a friend of a friends that we see maybe once or twice a year.
These acquaintances instantly oohhedd, aahhhed and made silly faces to get Baby MPB to laugh. He knows Baby MPB is adopted, but as we don’t see them regularly they had not met him yet. Then he fumbled with his words….so, where did….you….get him? Said with a crinkly forehand and all. His wife looked at him like he’d lost his mind.
I laughed because I knew he didn’t mean to be offensive, I could literally see him thinking through the question but it just didn’t come out right. Honestly I knew what he was trying to say – he simply wanted to ask where was Baby MPB born?
Clearly, for some reason, when it comes to adoption people forget their words.
I responded with, Baby MPB was born in XX, USA. And he responded with ya, that’s what I was trying to ask.
Honestly, it was an endearing conversation – I knew he was struggling, but he was trying.
And, it’s not my job to constantly correct and educate people.
Sometimes it’s best just to laugh, answer the question they intended to ask with appropriate language and move on.
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I’ve hit my limit. I cannot keep up the pace that we are currently functioning at. It’s just not possible.
Yet, I look at our calendars and I realize as much as I need to slow down, life isn’t going to give us a break:
- Sept 24-25 – booked. Family visiting and staying with us.
- Oct 1-2 – booked. Mr. MPB is away.
- Oct 8-9 – booked. Friends visiting and staying with us.
- October 15-16 – booked. Away for a mini-family reunion.
- October 21-23 – Long weekend away just the 4 of us (Mr. MPB, Baby MPB, dog MPB and I).
- October 29-30 – booked. Mr. MPB is away.
And somewhere in there we have to make time to visit our new niece who lives a few hours away. And we have to hire a new nanny and continue to work to pay the bills. Oh, and we also probably have that family member sporadically staying with us as they deal with their own difficult situation.
I don’t even have the courage to look at our November calendar. We simply cannot keep this pace up, and I honestly have no desire to.
In an attempt to settle things down I looked at what we can cancel. And the sad reality is that the only thing we can get rid of is our family weekend in the mountains. Clearly we aren’t cancelling that since it should be mostly fun.
I just don’t know how to get life back to a point where I feel like I can just relax and just enjoy being.
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