The Things Our Dreams Are Made Of
I’ve realized that the first year of being a parent is pretty epic and pretty life changing. I suspect this is the case for almost all parents.
But, I’ll admit, as we approach the Christmas holiday season I am starting to think that the first year of being a parent after loss and struggle is just a little extra sweet.
Why year one? Well, it includes all kinds of firsts that we never thought we’d get to experience. For a while there I honestly didn’t think we’d choose adoption. For a while there I honestly thought we’d choose to be childless, which meant there was a time we were grieving the loss of having children, the loss of the first smiles, the first crawl, the first word, the first day of school, the first of so many things. Obviously, in the end we followed our hearts and threw ourselves into the unknown world of adoption, and at the same time we slowly started to believe we may one day be parents.
And here we are now savouring every single first. We have experienced so many other firsts – first bath, first camping trip, first day at home, first flight, first real food, first roll-over, first stand up, first time swimming, etc. Soon enough we will experience a first Christmas. And most recently we experienced Mr. MPB’s first birthday as a father.
I cannot speak for parents who didn’t struggle to have children, but I know for us, every single first is extra sweet as we know how close we came to not getting to experience these moments at all.
And, if there is one positive of having survived 5 miscarriages and very nearly not having children, this is it. We are determined to embrace these moments, celebrate milestones and simply soak up each moment. So for us, these moments, they have been nothing short of amazing. We are making a point to enjoy each and every second and to savour the sweet moments.
For us, these moments are the things our dreams are made of.
We know our dreams are coming true and we never want to forget just how fortunate we are to be Baby MPB’s parents and so we don’t ever want to take a second for granted.
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