Erased But NEVER Forgotten
Yesterday I realized that in order for me to be a mother, it means my son’s birth mother has been erased on his birth certificate. With the change to his birth certificate and the fact that the original one is basically forever sealed, in the eyes of the government, our son’s birth mother no longer exists as his mother.
I find this very unsettling. Yet, I realize I have no authority to change the policies of the State Little MPB was born in at this point in time.
It is what it is, so we must move on.
Yet, I feel the need to state, that just because the government has erased her, we have not. Nor will we.
In no-way shape of form will she ever be erased from our son’s life. She will always be the one who cared for him during the first 9 months of his life. She will always be the one who gave birth to him. She will always be the one who chose to place him with us and entrust us to raise him. She will always be the one who placed him in my arms moments after he was born. She will always be his birth-mom, and as such she will always be a part of our family.
Honestly, our son will always know about her. And, as he grows up, we will always encourage a healthy dialogue and a healthy relationship between the two of them.
For us, this is just a fact of life.
And so, while the government may have erased her, we will never forget her as part of our family.
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