Celebrating Adoption Milestones
A few months ago we decided to take an overt step to foster more excitement within ourselves about our choice to adopt. We decided that with each significant adoption milestone to purchase something for our future family/child.
To celebrate our home study, our first purchase was a beautiful original piece of art that is now hanging in the nursery. This was the very first thing we ever bought for our child, and has so much meaning to us as it signifies our choice to adopt and our future child coming into our lives.
Then we bought a used pack n’ play so that at minimum we have a safe space for our child to sleep. As we are adopting internationally, something we could travel with seemed like a really good idea. And as an added bonus, the lovely people we bought it from gave us a diaper bag and a mobile for the crib.
Next I bought some books. As I adore books, children books are a must for our future child. So, I pulled out the few books I have from my childhood and bought some our of favourite ones as well. The book collection is already growing and I love it!
And most recently, with all the excitement of moving to the USA side of our adoption, we bought something that might seem extravagant considering the cost. In order to afford it I have been selling unwanted used things from our house for the last few months, so the pain wasn’t nearly as bad as it could have been. We bought my dream camera lens. The lens, while not practical at all for baby photos, will be amazing for photos as our child starts to grow. And it’s the type of thing we will be very unlikely to buy when we actually have children as we will be choosing to spend our money on our child’s basic needs and wants. So, we used all the cash I had been saving up (specifically for camera equipment), added a bit more to it to get the necessary accessories (i.e. UV filter, monopod, etc), and we bought it!! And as an added bonus it will be tonnes of fun to use the camera lens as I finish up my 365 Happy Days.
And now, I’m looking forward to our next milestone – finishing our profile book and actually being shown to birth mothers. I have no idea what to do to celebrate that milestone, but I do know we don’t want to spend tonnes of money right now. I’m thinking practical needs like a bouncy chair or maybe a baby wrap / carrier. Or maybe something fun and useless, but I’m not sure what that would be. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas, practical or not?
And, with this, I’ve also realized this will be one of the last milestones!! All we will have left is the milestones of being matched, being placed and coming home!! I doubt we will celebrate being matched, as a match can fall through. But we will definitely be celebrating the actual placement and coming home! It’s hard to believe these are the next steps…
With the steps forward recently, it feels like it is getting just a little bit more real and a lot closer to our dream of having children to complete our family!
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