We spent the last few days weighing the pros and con’s of attending our son’s adoption finalization in person.
We spoke with our lawyer to get his opinion. He said we have already paid a $1000 USD court fee to submit the application to waive the requirement of us attending in person – this is non-refundable, of course. We also went over the process of actually attending – apparently we will hang out in a waiting room at family court and wait until we are called to stand before the judge for 10 minutes and maybe take a photo. He indicated that the family court waiting room is not often a happy place to spend a day as the majority of the people waiting are not waiting for a happy adoption circumstance like ours. He definitely did not see the point on us attending, but indicated that we are welcome to attend.
At the same time I’ve also been figuring out the USA Social Insurance process – since we are Canadian this is completely new to us. My research so far says we have to be physically be in the USA to apply for it (I haven’t found a loop hole yet that lets us apply via mail and get our original documents back – having our original documents is a basic necessity in our opinion). And we need to apply once we get Baby MPB’s Amended Birth Certificate which will take an additional 6ish months after the adoption finalization. (Evidently you can apply using the original birth certificate, but depending on the person who reviews the application they may not accept it. So, we might as well wait until we have the amended birth certificate to apply as it’s not a rush for us). So all of this means we will have to go visit somewhere in the USA with a Social Security office within the next year or so.
In the end we’ve decided not to attend. Basically, while a long weekend in warmth would be nice, adding more into our insane schedule just isn’t a good idea. And honestly, after our last attempt at a weekend away, nothing about international travel excites either Mr. MPB or myself. Also, we’d really rather save our flight points to visit Baby MPB’s birth mother and sibling – we want Baby MPB to know this part of his family and in the scheme of life that’s way more important to us.
And so, we’ve decided to take the day of the finalization off work to spend the day as a family. I have no idea what we will do, but I’m sure it will be fun!!
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