Ready to Give Up
This week we have encountered the following:
- 3 of 5 people we had arranged to interview for a new nanny simply didn’t show up to their scheduled interview.
- We offered the nanny position to one who actually showed up to find out that she accepted another position a few hours before our offer.
- After a promising start our new house cleaner cancelled on us 2 weeks ago and then this week told us she’s not able to stay long enough to clean our entire house.
- My councilor cancelled on me – she is very sick, I’m trying to be forgiving on this one.
I feel like if we encounter one more flake I’m going to lose it on them. I simply don’t have the time, patience or energy for this.
I don’t understand what the heck is going on.
We don’t live near family and all of close our friends seem to have moved in the last few months so we literally have no-one nearby we can turn to for help. As we don’t live near a support system we pay people to help us so that we can manage. Yet it seems that everyone we pay doesn’t understand basic commitments and responsibility.
Honestly, I’m about ready to give up. I feel like crawling under my desk, curling up in a little ball and crying.
But I can’t. I just don’t have time. So, instead I have to re-advertise for a nanny and I also have to find a new cleaner. And somewhere in all of this we also have to work, take care of our son, clean half our house, fit in conversations with our lawyers and entertain Mr. MPB’s high demand (which means high stress for me) parents who are visiting this weekend.
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Aaaaargh! Soo frustrating.
I wish you were close by. I would have baby sat baby MPB for a few hours.
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I wish you were close by too!!!!
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That is a lot of stress in a short span of time. I would be super frustrated too! Hopefully today you will have your faith restored in humanity and find the right people to help you out!
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Oh, MPB. I’m so sorry. This is all so frustrating. I have the day off today–I wish I could come help out with baby boy! I hate that about the blog community. I want so much to physically be there for all of you sometimes!
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Oh my! I’m so sorry! We’ve never been one to hire people until Luke was born and let me tell you we had a hard time getting people to even call us back! Thankfully we’ve found some good people that have been great so far but it was like pulling teeth on the front end. I can’t even imagine the nanny battles you are having. I hope someone excellent comes your way soon!
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It is soooooo hard to get good help. We can’t get an electrician to our house right now!!! Honestly, work must be going to well for them.
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Oh no…I’m sorry! Baby MPB could totally come play over here. Do you want to move to WI?! You might not want to answer that question until after Nov. 8th. ;p I’m so sorry things are so stressful right now. I don’t suppose there’s a fantastic in home person near by that can take Baby MPB or a friend that you could possibly do a nanny share with? Wishing you the best of luck…I know it’s hard to find some wonderful who you would trust with your most loved little one!
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it seems like there is a lack of reliable people in the child care industry as a whole. My daughter works for a day care and they are always short staffed. They have 10+ open positions at any one time, and when they do find people to hire, they are never reliable. So sad for our children!
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I can feel your stress through this post. You are tough for keeping it together right now. I hope things finally start to turn around for you soon!
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Oh man-that is a lot of stress at one time. I’m so sorry. I agree with the bloggers above-I wish I could help! If only we were all in one area we could all take turns watching baby MPB while you got some stuff done and found a new nanny!
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So sorry you are having such a tough time. Do you not have any amazing day care centers nearby? The interaction children get by being in small group settings enhances all of their developmental stages.
Fingers crossed that you find the right solution soon !
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When it rains, it pours! At least right now, for you. i’m sorry you are having to go through this tough season. I’ll be praying that you find some responsible helpers, you find peace in the midst of the stress, and that you have a good weekend.
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I can’t stand the inconsideration, irresponsibility, and plain old rudeness of people these days. I know you saw my post the other day about 2 friends cancelling on me the day before…I have no words for how things like this make me feel!! And for people to just plain old not show up, how infuriating! Are you able to leave comments or ratings on people on there, so others know that they just completely flake out like that? Both the nannies and the cleaners!! I’m sorry you’re dealing with so much right now, just not what you need added to your plate. I hope Mr’s parents aren’t too overwhelming this weekend. Maybe they’ll actually keep baby entertained so you can get some other things done! Hang in there, there has to be a light at the end of this tunnel, no matter how long it looks from where you are!! *hugs*
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Do you have daycare options? Honestly I’ve heard so many nanny flaking stories from friends (and remember some from my own childhood), that I’ve never even considered one, despite the better time flexibility they could offer over daycare.
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We have loved daycare so far. Wyatt loves it too, but he’s been oh so sick! That’s my only forewarning.
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Oh, C has been in daycare for a year now. Yes, initially sick every month, but now doing great for almost 4 months.
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Thank you for giving me something to look forward to. Wyatt’s been sick 3 weeks out of 6 and he’s only been going part time
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That’s so annoying! I am amazed by how rude and inconsiderate people can be. Sorry you’re going through so much at once. Hope you get some good news soon!
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Holy stress! I’m so sorry, this would drive me nuts. I just don’t understand how people can be so flaky, especially when it’s related to a job!!!! Wishing you better luck in the coming days to get this sorted out.
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I just don’t understand people! It’s so rude and unfair, but seems to be so common. Best of luck finding someone soon x x x
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I asked for support today. I reached out to a friend to watch Wyatt so I could take a few client calls. She came over, brought a friend and bailed early. Leaving me with a very sick baby and a call which ended up being rescheduled after the person on the other end heard my son hacking away. I know sometimes it’s my own boundaries (ie I should have taken a sick day for Wyatt), but it’s also hard when you identify needing help and can’t get it. Hang in there. I’m sending good vibes that your Mary Poppins /Mrs Doubtfire is out there.
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I’m sorry that people are such flakes. I would come watch baby MPB if I could. Does Canada have anything like care.com (don’t know if it’s only in the us)? Perhaps you could find someone that can take care of baby boy and clean the house….maybe a mothers helper?
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