Mr. MPB: Hey, we got an email from one of our adoption agencies.
Me (said from the shower): Oh ya, which one? What does it say?
Mr. MPB: ….
Me (yelling back from the shower): Huh?
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After shower completed.
Me: Well, I’m guessing it’s not news of a match since you didn’t tell me what the email was about?
Mr. MPB: Of course not. You think I wouldn’t come interrupt your shower if it were a match?
Me: Okay, fair enough.
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After reading said email.
Me: So, basically our profile book has been shown enough times that we have to fork out another $500, or more like $700 with the dollar conversion, to order more?
Mr. MPB: Yup. Pretty much.
Me: You know, it’s nice to know we are being shown. If we were adopting locally with the three year wait, we probably wouldn’t even be shown for another year or two. But, you know what sucks?
Mr. MPB: Ya, that we haven’t been chosen yet.
Me: Exactly. Anyways, I’ll take care of ordering and sending more books. Just expect another unexpected bill on our visa this month.
Mr. MPB: Fun times.
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We had another adoption update from our agency in the USA.
It didn’t say much. Basically, your profile has been shown and no-one chose you. You did not rank, 1st, 2nd or 3rd for anyone. Keep waiting, it might happen next month, or not. (Okay, to be fair, that’s my brains interpretation of what it said, not one of those words was used in the email update because the updates only show basic info – first name of who we were shown to and their status – i.e. matched, match process underway, undecided).
But, what it did say, which is different from our past months is that our profile was shown a tonne! Like, an absolute tonne. More then any other month. In fact, more then a few months combined.
I have no idea why, but apparently lots of potential birth moms / couples / families, were interested in looking at our book. That in itself is exciting. It’s great to know that people are looking at us, because the more we are shown, the more likely we are to be matched. And once matched, the more likely we are to welcome our child into our lives.
But, because I’m me, I cannot just accept this good perspective. Instead, my mind went straight to why has no-one chose us? Honestly I have no idea why. All I know is that not a single one chose us. And, we are not ranking in the top few for anyone. And if we could rank in the top few we get feedback on our profile so we can learn why they did not choose us. It sucks to be the first place looser, but at least in this circumstance it would give us the chance to maybe edit our profile to be more attractive (assuming the edits would be a true reflection of us, as we will not make changes that do not reflect us). While I really want to be matched, at this point I think I would even be happy with the first place looser just so we can get feedback to improve our presentation of ourselves.
But alas, that’s just not us. At least not now.
And so, we keep waiting. And wondering. And questioning. And hoping.
But, who knows maybe our phone will ring tomorrow. And I guess there’s no harm in hoping.
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