One of “Those” Conversations
Once upon a time, while driving to the grocery store, a husband and wife had a conversation:
Me: Hey, I was just thinking, any chance you want to try again? I just realized I’ll be 35 next year, which means our chances of a successful pregnancy will drastically drop in approximately 10 months.
Mr. MPB: Ummm….we have a chance at a successful pregnancy?
Me: Well, no. Not really. Just that our chances will drop even more in about 10 months.
Mr. MPB: Why are we talking about this?
Me: Well, before I turn 35 we have time for probably 2 more pregnancies/losses, maybe even 3, knowing us. And we both know that at 35 problems with infertility and pregnancy complications increase, so I figure we have 10 months to try with only our existing problems. Basically, if there is any chance we are going to try again, we should be trying before I turn 35 and our already horrible chances drop even further. I figure the responsible thing to do is to make sure you don’t want to try again?
Mr. MPB: That a definite no.
Me: Good. Neither do I. I am really just done with going through more losses.
Mr. MPB: Oh by the way, you’ll be 35 in 9 months, not 10.
Needless to say, recurrent pregnancy loss changed us. So much so that now these conversations are cavalier and almost sadistically humours.
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