I Won The War
I am unable to discuss specifics, but what I can say is that we were facing a very unexpected international adoption battle within our Country which was fundamentally critical to our son’s life long well being. Various departments in various levels of government were not speaking to each other and asking for things that literally DO NOT and CANNOT exist within Canadian or USA law.
No-one would speak to anyone. In fact, often times departments refused to even speak to me and/or return my phone calls as I tried to figure this out.
Eventually someone actually suggested that we need to leave the country and try to re-enter so that they could get the paperwork done correctly (note there is no guarantee that the boarder agent would have let our son re-enter without the proper paperwork which of course we do not have). And at that point, I got really annoyed because there had to be a better solution for a problem that we didn’t even create. So, I began talking to anyone and everyone who would listen. I kept phoning, and phoning and phoning each and every department. I kept being a pain in the butt. And, I didn’t stop.
At one point, I threatened to contact every single political representative would could possibly help.
At one point we almost hired an immigration lawyer to try to help. Because when it comes to our son, what’s another couple thousand dollars?
At one point I threatened to go to the local and national media. Because as much as we would have hated to do it, I know if we put our smiling faces all over the 6pm news and explained what the government bureaucracy was doing to our innocent adorable son, we would have won.
Needless to say I am thrilled to report that I recently found out my efforts/threats worked after countless hours and tears. Today I can happily report that I won this war for my son’s benefit. And I couldn’t be happier about it.
But what’s probably the most frustrating thing is that after months of dealing with this, the problem has magically been solved by the one department that always had the power to solve it if only they could see common sense.
So, the debate I have now is do I still go public? Do I start raising awareness about this, as we probably aren’t the first and definitely wont be the last to endure this. Honestly, I don’t know how much I want to take on this project, it’s massive. Yet, I also realize someone needs to. There are some significant issues with international adoption (and adoption as a whole) that I am unlikely to ever be able to fix, but this one I might just be able to. I dunno…maybe once our son’s adoption is finalized I’ll start tackling this properly. But maybe it’s also time to just get on with living and not being consumed with all this stuff. I dunno.
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