Self Reflection on Being Told I’m a Bad Mother
When someone calls you a bad mother, no matter who that person is and even if they are equivalent to an internet troll, it’s not something you just brush off. At least not for me.
Let me be clear, this comment came from a very mean person in the blogging world, not someone who knows me in real life. And honestly, it hasn’t gotten me down. I’m not depressed or upset. But, I have found myself thinking a lot about this comment this weekend.
I have said before and will say again, I’m not perfect. Truthfully, I don’t feel as though I have strong maternal instincts. And, some of this mommy stuff is taking a lot of work as it doesn’t all come naturally to me.
But, if I’m truly fair in my reflection, I also know that I’m doing every single thing possible to give my son the life he deserves. And, I know that for the rest of my life I will do everything in my power to support and love him. And, no matter how I look at it, I know I am a decent mother because of simple things like:
- Account for mental health concerns in my parenting and life decisions
- Attempt to balance working and parenting in part as an effort to teach my son the value of hard work and dedication and in part to ensure we can provide him with the lifestyle he deserves.
- Play with my son in ways that encourage his physical and mental development. We read, we play tummy time, we sing (poorly), we go for walks, we go to the zoo, we practice rolling over, we go for hikes, we play with friends, etc.
- Make educated choices on what to feed my son.
- Ensure he is always well fed, clothed and safe.
- Will always respect and love his roots.
- Ensure to the very best of my ability for safe interactions between baby and dog.
- Try to take care of myself in order to be the best mom I can be.
- Love my son unconditionally.
I guess, what I’m saying is that I know I’m not the perfect mother, but I also know I’m not a bad mother.
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