Approved Parents
I often complain about the rigors of the adoption process. I firmly believe in the background checks, but it’s exhausting to be continually opening your life up to intense scrutiny. Needless to say, it’s been grueling, expensive and even now still on going. Just to name a few of the steps we’ve taken to welcome our son into our lives:
- Multiple home study visits and approved home study.
- Canadian criminal record check.
- Global finger print police check.
- Physical and mental health medical reports.
- References from friends and families.
- At risk children intervention review.
- Financial reviews.
- Multiple parenting courses (even if some where ridiculous).
- Post placement home study visits.
But you know what’s really kind of cool, today I can say that I am an approved parent! It’s almost as though we’ve passed every single type of parenting test that seems to exist!
And we’ve done so in more then one country. Both the Canadian government and the USA government deem Mr. MPB and I fit parents!
Since very few parents actually go through this process, I guess in a way it’s kind of cool because I can actually say I passed the parenting test.
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I have often felt the same way, even though Erin and I aren’t approved yet. One of our parenting classes was all about effective discipline and how to handle oppositional behaviors. We had another one that was about ways to handle grief and what grief looks like at different ages because, as they say in the foster care world, kids don’t feel grief, they do grief.
I’ll be honest and say that there have been times when I’ve thought how much different the world would be if every parent had to go through all this stuff before they became parents… but I realize that it isn’t a fair thought…
Then again, the amount of stuff we have to go through to foster/adopt isn’t always fair either… Or consistent…
But it definitely feels like a triumph be on the finish line!
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I know exactly what you mean. The UK process has almost all of the points you’ve said there, and I sometimes think that all parents should be made to go on some of the parenting courses we went on regardless of how they come to have children.
We went on one that was about communicating with your child. It was meant to be targeted at children from the care system that tend to be less able to communicate with adults for one reason or another, but everything they told us was relevant to all parent-child relationships.
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Congrats!
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This is awesome! I feel like this is sort of a slap in the face to that mean person who had the nerve to say you were a bad parent before…now you have proof that you aren’t! (As if you REALLY needed it!) 😀
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That’s pretty awesome!!! Xo
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Well, that doesn’t surprise me one bit…of course you did! Congratulations!!! 🙂
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