Those of us who experience infertility and/or recurrent pregnancy loss often alone and at times even scared. Our lives are dictated by medical appointments and a complete lack of long term planning. We live in 28(ish) day cycles and two week waits. We are in a constant hope-grieve cycle. Hope that this cycle will work. Grieving that the cycle didn’t. Hoping that this pregnancy will last and result in a healthy baby. Grieving when it doesn’t.
So, if you know someone who has shared their experience with you, please #startasking.
- Start asking with compassion.
- Start asking with love.
- Start asking meaningful questions and taking the time to really listen to the hard stuff.
- Start asking so that you can be a true friend and help pick someone up when they are hurting.
And you are 1 in 8 who is facing infertility and/or recurrent pregnancy loss, and you are suffering in silence, just as I did for years through 4 losses, #startasking for support when you are ready. Ask someone you trust and love. Ask a counselor or a therapist. For me, asking for help is one of the hardest things I can ever do, but I’ve learned suffering in silence is even harder. From my experience not everyone will be as supportive as you expect/want, but those who are will amaze you and will lift you up in your lowest moments. Ask for a listening ear and the opportunity to tell your story in your own way. Ask for a hug and a shoulder to cry on. Even ask for space when and if you need it. So please, don’t be afraid to start asking for help.
For more infertility information and support options, check out resolve.org.
#NIAW 2016 #StartAsking
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