Those of us who experience infertility and/or recurrent pregnancy loss often alone and at times even scared.  Our lives are dictated by medical appointments and a complete lack of long term planning.  We live in 28(ish) day cycles and two week waits.  We are in a constant hope-grieve cycle.  Hope that this cycle will work.  Grieving that the cycle didn’t.  Hoping that this pregnancy will last and result in a healthy baby.  Grieving when it doesn’t.

So, if you know someone who has shared their experience with you, please #startasking.

  • Start asking with compassion.
  • Start asking with love.
  • Start asking meaningful questions and taking the time to really listen to the hard stuff.
  • Start asking so that you can be a true friend and help pick someone up when they are hurting.

And you are 1 in 8 who is facing infertility and/or recurrent pregnancy loss, and you are suffering in silence, just as I did for years through 4 losses, #startasking for support when you are ready.  Ask someone you trust and love.  Ask a counselor or a therapist.  For me, asking for help is one of the hardest things I can ever do, but I’ve learned suffering in silence is even harder.  From my experience not everyone will be as supportive as you expect/want, but those who are will amaze you and will lift you up in your lowest moments.  Ask for a listening ear and the opportunity to tell your story in your own way.  Ask for a hug and a shoulder to cry on.  Even ask for space when and if you need it.   So please, don’t be afraid to start asking for help.


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For more infertility information and support options, check out resolve.org.

#NIAW 2016 #StartAsking

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4 Comments on “#StartAsking

  1. Love this. I haven’t written about this yet because I’m not sure what to say. I’m in a strange place right now, and can’t seem to get my thoughts together. Maybe I’ll figure something out before the week is completely over with :-/

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  2. Great post! I am struggling this year to craft a post for NIAW, but you did an amazing job with the theme! So important to know how to support and how to ask for support. 🙂

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  3. I didnt have infertility, but a friend did. I was a gestational surrogate for her.
    I think it was an especially important experience for me, since I later went on to adopt thru foster care, and could then relate a bit more to birthmoms thru the experience I had.

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