I have 4 very clear rules about commenting on my blog:
Ultimately, My Perfect Breakdown is my blog and I reserve the right to moderate comments. I firmly believe in making the world a better place, encouraging people and lifting up those who are struggling for any reason. And so, as the keeper of my blog, it is my right to censor when needed.
While I despise the thought of pandering to negativity, but after the events in my comment section yesterday I feel the need to. Yesterday, I approved someone’s comment that probably shouldn’t have been. While I absolutely do not agree with them, I approved it because I am not opposed to respectful dialogue.
However, after the first comment, once challenged by other respectful bloggers, the tone appeared to quickly change and the future comments became mean and hurtful (I will not justify anything that was said with specific responses). All I will say, ironically enough, this commentor did exactly what I was talking about – judge me very negatively for not breastfeeding particularly with their very last comment. This all happened while I was away from technology and unable to prevent the continued comments from appearing.
As far as I’m concerned this is unacceptable on my blog.
So, first, I want to apologize for allowing these comments on my blog. I do not believe in spreading hurt and hate. Unfortunately once I read everything I feel the majority of the comments yesterday were being hurtful and mean. This is simply not the type of site I want to have, no-one deserve to read these types of things. As far as I’m concerned these comments while directed at me, aren’t just about me as a mother or a human being – I’m confident in our family decision to formula feed and I am confident that I’m a pretty good mother most days and my husband is an amazing father. What worries me and upsets me the most about the comments is their impact on other women who are struggling with their personal circumstances who read my blog as a source of support, understanding and compassion. As far as I’m concerned no-one ever deserves to be put down, especially when they may be struggling. And so, I’m sorry for exposing others to these hurtful comments.
Second, thank you to the amazing individuals who stood up to this person and for women like me. A few of these amazing individuals even sent me personal emails to check in with me. Your friendship, support and compassion is truly amazing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Third, as I’ve stated before, if you choose to make these types of comments on my blog, I will ban you. Once you cross the line (as determined by me), your future comments will be filtered and immediately deleted without me even reading them. I simply do not have the time or desire to fill my mind and heart with such cruel negativity.
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