My Keepers

I read an interesting blog post the other day about labels used to describe people by others and what words we use to describe themselves. (You can find the post here – as an aside, I love her blog as it always makes me think and often makes me smile).
When I think about how other’s describe me, I think about being a daughter, a wife, a mother, and a friend. Some may say I’m caring, some say I’m too caring and too emotional. I’ve often been called a dog lover. Others may say I’m straightforward as I say it how I see it. Some would definitely say I’m impatient. And I’ve crossed at least a few people who definitely don’t like me and probably wouldn’t use very positive words to describe me. Some would likely comment on my hard life and/or my ability to survive tragedy, because when your mom and sister die when your a teenager and you survive your teenage years and eventually go onto to having a decent career, survivor is a common word used to describe me.
But all of this has me thinking, who am I really? This seems like a moment for some serious self-reflection.
I am of course a everything other’s have said about me.

I am a daughter, a wife, a mother and a friend. As for being a daughter, I wasn’t a very good daughter for a number of years, but lately I feel like my relationship with my father is better then it has been as long as I can remember. And, I am a wife, I love my husband beyond measure, and I count our relationship as one of the best in my life. It’s not always perfect and it takes some work, but I wouldn’t trade him for anything. Some people would say I am an adoptive mom, not just a mom, to them, I say screw off, because this fact neither praise worthy or a negative in my eyes. I am simply someone who fought hard to be a mom loosing way too many babies in the process. But here I am, thankful every single day that I count mom as one of my descriptors – I wear this label with pride. And, as for being a friend, I’m not the greatest at that these days, and I see it as one of my greatest failings right now.

I am also caring, although I’m not sure that’s something you can ever be too much of. I do love dogs, and working on loving Doodle MPB crazy as much as she clearly loves me. I can be emotional, although I rarely am and I am almost never emotional outside the comfort of my home. And yes, I am straightforward, and I am impatient, and I probably swear too much too. I am a little bit arrogant at times particularly about my work and it’s one of my least favorite personality traits so I work hard to keep it in check. And yet, at the exact same time, I also doubt myself constantly and worry obsessively over small mistakes. I acknowledge at times I am not always a perfect saint, and while I would never intentionally upset someone, I know I have from time to time and I know I have people in this world who do not like me for a number of reasons, but such is life. And yes, I am a bit of survivor, but I do not wear that badge with pride, I wear it only because I have no choice in the matter.

But when I think about who I am, I am also someone who is dedicated to anything I put my mind to, except maybe exercising as much as I wish I had time for. I am dedicated to my career and professional development. I take commitments seriously and I don’t make promises unless I know I can keep them. I take things personally. I stress over the small stuff, more then I probably should. And, I despise being late.

And those who know all of these things about me and embrace all of my labels, to quote CandidKay, they are my Keepers. I don’t have many of them, but they are the ones who love me not in spite of all my labels, but because of them.

I’m rather confident when I say, Keepers are some of the best people in the world. I’ll continue to cherish mine, and hopefully you do to.

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6 Comments on “My Keepers

  1. I love the thoughts of the tumbled out from just one post :-). You are more than a survivor and a strong woman-you are a woman who is allowing herself to define who she is. And that makes all the difference. Thanks so much for the pingback

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  2. Love this post! Really gets me thinking of who I truly am and a lot of the things you described yourself as, are the same for me too!

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  3. Having met you in real life (lucky me) I will add charming, humble and warm to this list. You have consistently been my top 5 most inspirational people and I am lucky I get to read your thoughts so often. Xoxoxo

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  4. This is so true! There is something so soulful about having a tribe…the people who know you and love you completely, idiosyncrasies and all. 🙂

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  5. I have chills reading this post. I’ve never heard of “Keepers” but I know who mine are by reading your description. They truly are special and we are all so lucky to have our own keepers!

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