You’re A Big Boy Now
People keep saying You’re A Big Boy Now to Little MPB. Usually that sentence is followed with something like
…so you don’t need your soother any more.
…so you can start using the toilet now.
…so you shouldn’t throw your food at dinner time because big boys don’t throw food.
Heck, I’ll admit, I’ve said these things too. Probably because it just comes naturally to use this language.
And, it’s always just sort of annoyed me to hear encouragement based on the language of becoming a big boy. It doesn’t make me angry, and I definitely I don’t hate people who use this terminology. Rather, it just gets under my skin and irks me.
But, I think I’ve finally figured out why it irks me so.
I realize my baby boy is growing up. He’s a full blown toddler now, with toddler sized temper tantrums and everything. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not that naïve, I get that is not a baby anymore and I get that he should not be a baby forever.
But, seriously, he’s not even 2 years old. He’s still just a little kid – he hopefully has another 80+ years of life ahead of him.
My problem with this language is that we are we all rushing to make him grow up. By using this language, we are already subtly making it known that he should stop being a 2 year old and start maturing beyond his months/years. Why are we, as in society (I suspect this language is widely used beyond just my family and friends), already socializing him to believe he needs to grow up? Why cant we just embrace him for being a messy toddler, who doesn’t know how to use the toilet yet?
I don’t have the answer to the we question, but I do know that I’m going to find a new way to encourage more desirable behaviours that doesn’t include encouraging him to be a big boy.
I want him to enjoy the innocence of childhood as long as possible!
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