Open Adoption Related Conundrum
First, I want to quickly say that we have had contact from Baby MPB’s birthmother. I will not share her story, but I will say she’s safe and she and baby are okay.
Second, as I was finishing up the last of our Christmas gift shopping, I realized we have not chosen a gift for Baby MPB’s birthmother. We want to get her something, we want to spoil her just a little bit. We have absolutely no idea what to get for her. Unlike shopping for one of our siblings, a parent or a friend, we have no ideas.
Unlike most people in our lives we don’t know what she has and what she doesn’t have. We don’t know what she wants or what she needs.
We have thought about sending her clothing, but that just doesn’t feel right. We could send some chocolates, but that really doesn’t feel right either. Another idea we’ve had is a handmade gift from Baby MPB, but I honestly cannot commit to getting something made this weekend in order for us to get it in the mail so it arrives before Christmas. That, and I’m completely clueless when it comes to crafts, so crafting is a massive challenge for me that just isn’t going to happen right now. Another idea is a gift card to somewhere, but that feels so incredibly impersonal and of course to do this I would have to figure out the technicalities of getting her a gift card to a store in the USA when we live in Canada.
At the end of the day, one thing I know is that many of the things we (as in the MPB family) take for granted in life, she does not even have. So, sending her something that could come off as pretentious or come off as useless, simply doesn’t appeal to me.
This of course is the conundrum – I have no idea what those things are. I want to be considerate. I want her to be spoiled by someone who loves her. Really, I just want to bring some joy to her Christmas.
So, my questions today is what can we get for her this weekend that so that we can get it into the mail ASAP?
And one last note, do you know how excited I am to be done Christmas shopping?! Once this gift is bought, I am done!
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