A common theme in our lives for what feels like forever now has been the astronomical cost of our international adoption. It feels as though the costs have continued to climb for reasons we cannot understand. But, of course, this is the first time in my life that I’ve had no choice but to pay. Truthfully, it feels a lot like blackmail….but, I digress.
A long time ago I stopped filling in the excel spreadsheet titled Adoption Costs. We made the decision to not know the exact dollar figure. First, they constant payments and calculating our debt was keeping us up at night. And anxiety and stomach ulcers just aren’t going to be helpful. Second, we figured by not knowing the dollar figure we’d never be able to answer the question of how much did I cost? which is evidently a common question of adopted children. Of course, we don’t believe our son cost us a penny, rather the process to legally bring him into our lives was the expense and it’s been worth every single penny.
But, all that said, we were forced to change our tune. It turns out the adoption costs are required by our lawyer. So, we were forced to resurrect that old Adoption Cost spreadsheet. And so we spent yesterday going through bank records to calculate exactly what we’ve spent. To the penny.
While I’m not going to publicize the exact number, I will say that it is in excess of 85,000 CAD (65,000 USD), which is well over double what we were originally quoted. For perspective, note that this more MORE then the yearly median family income for the USA in 2014 (“Median household income was $53,657 in 2014” – source). No matter how I rationalize it, this is a lot of money!!
Now that we’ve done the math it turns out the actual amount is within a few hundred dollars of what we thought from our rough mental calculations. So not counting never really happened.
And, even more interesting, once we submitted the spreadsheet to our lawyer his response was Wow!! that’s the most expensive adoption we have EVER done!! So, ya, we now hold that record.
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