When we got home from the USA, we made one simple thing very clear to everyone in our lives. PLEASE COME VISIT US, WE ARE NOT TRAVELING ANYTIME SOON.
We didn’t mean to be rude, we just needed to be home. We needed time to get our own routines figured out, cook in our own kitchen, be able to laundry whenever we wanted and just be.
We live in a city with amazing friends nearby, but without any family. And, it has always felt like it has been on us to visit our family. And, after the stress and anxiety of traveling for the first 3 weeks of Baby MPB’s life, we just couldn’t bare the thought of more travel. To be honest, the idea of hoping on a plane and/or driving hours to visit people literally brought tears to my eyes as I remembered everything we went through in the USA. Most of our immediate family (whose circumstances allowed for it we and we understand that not everyone can travel) made an effort to travel and meet baby MPB. However, there were some in our extended families who expected us to travel, and we just said no. In fact, there were multiple people who sent cards and gifts which we are so increadibly thankful for. But I’ll admit being much less thankful for the few handwritten notes in the cards indicating that they wished we had visited already. Heck, one family member suggested we should change our flights home from the USA so we could visit everyone on our way back to Canada, before we even got home.
But, we have decided it’s time. (The key is that WE decided it is time).
We drove about 6 hours (round trip) to visit my family on Easter weekend so that my extended family can meet Baby MPB. (As an aside, I typically hate Easter, and have avoided since my Mom and sister died a few days after Easter many years ago. But, Baby MPB deserves to have fun at Easter and so starting this year I will make an effort). As we did it as a one day visit there was lots of driving, but we figured it’s easier to come home for the night then to stay in someone else’s home and the thought of being away from home for a night literally makes me cringe as I remember everything we went through in the USA. So, if I’m being honest, I just really don’t want to do overnight travel yet. I saw this one day trip is the perfect way to introduce Baby MPB to even more of his extended family while keeping my anxiety under control.
As for Mr. MPB’s extended family, we just booked flights using points we accumulated on our visa while traveling in the USA (so we only have to pay the tax). I also found a great deal on a car rental (50% off), so the entire trip is beyond reasonable. That trip will occur in April. We debated waiting a few more months, but it turns out one of my favourite people in the entire world who lives halfway around the world (my aunt) will be in that city the same weekend and I just couldn’t pass up the opportunity to see her. This trip will necessitate overnight travel, but we are making it a very short long weekens trip. When we told the family, my Aunt was thrilled. But everyone else seemed to give us grief because we aren’t staying an entire week or even just a few more nights. But we know this short visit will be full of family visiting which will be a lot for us right now. Simple things like having to deal with formula prep and bottle cleaning in a kitchen that isn’t as clean as ours, or needing to ask to do laundry, or the possibility of having a screaming child wake everyone up at 3am makes both me nervous.
But, like I said, WE decided it’s time for Baby MPB to meet his extended family, and so that means it’s time for us to travel just a little bit. The real bonus is that from our time in the USA we are basically experts at long distance driving and flying with an infant now, so the actual travel will probably be pretty easy for us.
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