Caught in a Whirlwind

  Posted on January 4, 2016 By

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The last few days have been intense.

In fact, it’s been so crazy that I think I’ve stopped sleeping like a normal person.

Here’s a quick summary of what we’ve been managing, while still working full time.

Day 1

  • Find out about potential match via telephone to Mr. MPB. No information available. Schedule meeting with local agency for next day.
  • Call counsellor to let her know and set up appointment with our family doctor – no answer, leave a message.

Day 2

  • Meet with local agency. Learn about match.
  • Call international doctor to book appointment to review match – no answer, leave a message.
  • Call friend who is a doctor, arrange time to meet with her the next day.
  • Call counsellor to let her know more and set up appointment with our family doctor – no answer, leave a message and play telephone tag.

Day 3

  • Meet with friend who is doctor, learn more. Get very excited.
  • Talk with counsellor, finally. She will arrange everything with our clinic.
  • Buy a tonne of baby clothing from second hand baby store.
  • Stop at ToysRUs, buy nothing.
  • Spend a tonne of money on Amazon.ca
  • Notify local adoption agency that we accept the match.

Day 4

  • Receive authorization to speak to US agencies.
  • MPB called US agency.
  • MPB called US Lawyer. Talked with 2 case workers and lawyer.
  • Discover BM is expected to deliver baby early.
  • All the while we are both working and Mrs. MPB is out of town with work.
  • Multiple emails with everyone involved, all day long.
  • MPB and Mrs. MPB play telephone tag and text all day/evening long.

Day 5

  • MPB and Mrs. MPB talk with lawyer and case worker together.
  • Multiple emails with everyone involved, all day long.
  • Phone call introduction with birth mother scheduled for next day.
  • Reschedule medical review appointment with family doctor as birth mother phone call is now scheduled for the same time.

We are both working very hard to juggle adoption meetings with work.

As I said, it’s been intense! International adoption is crazy. Right now, we are just holding on for the ride and hoping that all the professionals do what they need to do as to not cause any delays or errors anywhere in the incredibly complicated process.

* Please note, I know I’m vague on details right now which is probably driving a few people crazy.  This is an intentional decision because we haven’t sorted through what we are sharing and what we are not.  We realize that adoption is compicated with many people involved and therefore not all the information we are learning is ours to share.  And while my blog is anonymous, it may not always be, so before I can give out the details we need to figure out what is right for us to share and what is best for us to keep confidential.  What I can say is that baby is healthy, birth mom is sweet and our hearts our bursting with hope and love for everyone involved.

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52 Comments on “Caught in a Whirlwind”

  2. Oh my goodness!! You are right! What a whirlwind!! Thank you for updating us as much as possible. I’ve been thinking about you guys and hoping that progress is being made. I can’t wait to learn more and in the meantime I really hope that you are able to juggle all things baby and work. You’re doing so great! I’m so happy for you!!!

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  3. I like your last line. baby is healthy, bm is sweet and thsts all thst matters in the end!! I cAnnot wait to see your blog turn into a mommy blog. Happy new year MPB’s. Looks like 2016 is going to kick 2015 in the ass :))

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  5. I am just so excited for you! I’m thankful for the updates… I am curious, have you told your families anything yet? I think it would be hard not to, but it would be nice to just be excited yourself. We didn’t tell my parents the first 7 weeks after the successful IVF that we were pregnant, and it was so wonderful to just enjoy it ourselves!

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  6. I’m so thrilled for you and your husband! I’m looking forward to the post when you get to take baby home. All the hugs as you trudge through this complicated process.

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  12. Ha! I’m totally one of those people going a little crazy with the vagueness, but I totally get it and understand. I am just so darn excited for you. I was getting teary just telling J about it when you first let us know you got the call. Everything is sounding crazy and super busy but I am praying it all works out! Sending you much love, hope and prayers!!!

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  19. So excited that things are progressing well for your family! I’ve been looking forward to your updates. I also think it’s good you’re being cautious about what you share. You just never know! Best wishes to you, Mr. MPB, dog, the birth mom and of course the little one 🙂

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  20. Omigod, I was soooo excited to read this post!!! You definitely don’t owe anybody any more details than you want to give out. I am just so thrilled to hear about these steps and moving forward. I had been thinking about you and had been hoping you’d hear something before 2015 ended. This is such a beautiful start to the year.

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  21. Oooh this all sounds so exciting – I can’t wait to hear more…lovely to hear BM is sweet and glad it’s all working out ❤ x

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  24. If you still need a car seat and BM is anywhere near East TN, let me know. I’ve gotten pretty involved in some mom groups here and I’m certain I could get something for you. Feel free to email me if you don’t want to discuss it on here.
    Very, very, very excited for you!

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  28. Oh wow!!!! I knew this woukd happen for you both soon – my goodness I am so excited for you!!!!!!!

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  29. OMG, don’t even worry about us until things settle down for you guys! It’s sweet, but we’ll be here waiting with bated breath whenever you get the chance to let us all know about the details. I absolutely could not be happier or more excited for you! Good luck with the roller coaster ride!!!

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  35. This is so exciting!! Be sure and reach out to any that may be in the area of the US that the birth mom is in I am sure you will have plenty of offers of help if needed.

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  41. Great!!!! Excited for you. The best advice I can give as an adoptive mom…remember that your child’s story is his/hers…not yours. It is up to them to share it with whomever they choose to. It is not yours to share even though you are their parent.

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  45. So glad for the recap, I’m behind on my reading! I know this must be stressful and exciting and basically all the feelings. I’m so happy for you and I’m praying for this whole situation and for you, Mr MBP, birth parents and baby. Blessings friend, this is all wonderful!!

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  47. This is all so exciting!!! It’s going to be a great 2016 for you guys!! I see dirty diapers, sleepless nights and endless snuggles in your near future!!! BIG HUGS!

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