Adoption Choices: Why Infant Adoption?
Following up on my posts last week on the key adoption choices we’ve made, the last significant adoption decision we had to make was:
Infant vs Older Child
For us, this was a relatively easy decision.
In fact, we didn’t even do any specific academic research on infant adoption.
First, we knew we wanted to do open adoption, and in almost all circumstances open adoption is of an infant.
Second, we knew we want to be part of our child’s life from day 1 (or as close to day one as humanly possible).
Third, we simply wanted an infant.
I think the biggest thing I’ve learned in our adoption process so far is that the decisions you have to make seem to never end.
We had to make decisions about:
- Infant vs. Older Child
- Open vs. Closed
- Domestic vs. International
- Substance Exposure
- How to prepare for the home study.
- Amount we are willing to spend on birth mother expenses.
- Which agency to work with locally and internationally.
- To hire a graphic designer for our profile book or not. And ultimately who to hire.
For us, every decision involved a lot of research and personal reflection. In addition to learning about the adoption process, we’ve learned a lot about ourselves. In many ways, the adoption process forces you to think through a lot of things including your family history, your current life and your future hopes. At times it can be a hard process, but it’s also an interesting process. And I’m adamant that it will be worth it in the end.
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