Potty Training Update
Remember a few months ago we decided to let daycare take the lead on potty training? Well, they’ve done an excellent job of potty training, at daycare. In fact, Little MPB is a potty peeing pro at daycare. They keep him in a pull-up all day long, but he only uses it for poop. When it comes to pee, he now self-initiates, and does the whole potty routine on his own. Like completely on his own!! We are told that in a few more weeks he’ll simply choose to start using the potty for all of his daily needs including poop. Daycare is adamant that if you force a child into potty training it takes more time. So, they just use peer pressure, positive encouragement and a scheduled routine.
But, clearly, that’s not how it’s been going at home. At home, when we say potty, and we are faced with epic tears and meltdowns. He has actually mastered the art of running to another room, throwing himself on the ground and crying/screaming. (As an aside, how can a screaming/crying child be so adorable and almost humorous?!). We’ve been reading about how to overcome this, talking to daycare and I’ve even reached out to a few friends who have a bit more experience in potty training and seem to know what they are doing when it comes to potty training their own kids.
Anyways, we are implementing a modified daycare approach. Unlike daycare, at home during the day we are not diaper/pull-up free. We went and picked out big boy underwear, and he loves it. When we mention the potty before and after regular daily activities (like before dinner, before bedtime, etc.) we do not ask if he needs to go, we tell him. We are stern and matter-of-fact when it comes to the potty. We are also making it a family affair, sort of like how daycare uses peer pressure for the younger kids to learn – we say Little MPB goes to the potty first, then mommy/daddy goes to the potty second. And most recently we brought a teddy bear into the circle of potty users, which he absolutely loves because he gets to help his teddy use the potty. He also knows he gets chocolate when he uses the potty (not just sitting on it).
Needless to say, some days are better then others. But we are having more good days.
So, here’s what I can say about potty training my first (and last child):
- Little MPB isn’t one of those kids who just decides one day he’s going to use the potty on his own.
- We have discovered Little MPB doesn’t like being told to do something. Which is clearly a shocker given he’s almost officially a threenager (note the sarcasm). He prefers to self-initiate as often as possible. Which also means we have to leave him alone and let him make mistakes, which is easier said then done.
- Little MPB likes his privacy. Which is likely why he has mastered using the potty on his own at daycare. At home, we now stand outside the bathroom when he is using it, because while he doesn’t give us any potty privacy, we understand the desire for potty privacy.
- I get frustrated quicker then Mr. MPB. (But this is true to most things in life, just given our personality differences). Patience is a virtue, that I am lacking.
- Potty training isn’t the most fun I’ve had as a parent thus far. In fact, I hate it.
- Most recently I threatened that santa would not come if he doesn’t use the potty everyday, everytime. I’m officially the worst mom ever. Yet, I am hoping it’s the motivation he needs?
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