The Battle Has Begun
The battle for Christmas 2017 recently took over our lives.
Mr. MPB’s family wants us to fly to see them.
My family wants their traditional Christmas eve gathering.
And, Mr. MPB and I want Christmas morning at home.
We have decided we will not negotiate Christmas morning at home. We want a special morning as a family, and since we are the parents we are not going to negotiate on this. Also, growing up both Mr. MPB and I always had a quiet Christmas morning at home with just our parents and siblings – so why do our parents now expect that we wouldn’t do the same with our family? I truly don’t understand. Can someone just explain to me why, every single year, this is a battle? We’ve made our plans known for the last 5+ years, so why do we still have to have this argument? And why do they all have to layer on the guilt as if our decision to spend a Christmas at home is equivalent to some sort of Satan worship? Also, why do grandparents have an obsession with Christmas being on exactly Christmas? Isn’t Christmas about the kids, shouldn’t they come first?! (I’m starting to rant….).
We’ve also decided we will not fly on or around Christmas. Which means a Christmas visit to Mr. MPB’s family is out. We used to do it, and we ended up spending more Christmas’ in the airport waiting for delayed flights and eating pizza and beer for Christmas dinner. So, we stopped doing this years ago and we are adamantly refusing to fly with a toddler at Christmas. We will not put Little MPB (or ourselves) through that. So, as a compromise, in early December we will fly for an early Christmas with Mr. MPB’s extended family. We’ve organized it with all the kids so that all the kids and grandkids will visit at the same time. The siblings were nice enough to work around our schedule as we are the only ones who have to fly. So, now we are just hoping this is good-enough for his parents and we don’t have any further arguments over Christmas. As an added bonus, even with Little MPB flying for free since he’s still under 2, this compromise is still going to cost us over $1500!!
As for my family, IF the roads are good, we will drive to see them for Christmas Eve, but return home that night. The key to this decision is that we will only go if the roads are good. Last year we drove through a snow-storm and we simply aren’t doing that again.
But, I had to admit, even after this rant, I’m really excited for our Christmas this year. After all the pressure of Little MPB’s first Christmas, somehow this one seems easier. Also, I think he’ll actually be interested in Christmas this year which should be lots of fun!
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