Another Thought About Embryo Adoption
This is one is pretty simple for Mr. MPB and I, but it’s also pretty critical.
When we did all our adoption research we decided to pursue an open adoption because the most up-to-date research indicated that it’s best for children to know they are adopted from the beginning and for children to know their biological family. (If you really want sources for this info, let me know and I can try to dig them up).
So, just like with Baby MPB we would want our potential embryo adopted child to also know their biological family. Which means, we want our child (and us) to have a relationship with our friends. (And honestly, since they are already friends, it would seem weird to not have a relationship with them).
I should say that we understand that it may not be possible to have relationships with all of our children(s) biological family members. We know this is always a possibility, but ideally we would want some sort of connection.
We don’t have a crystal ball for what this relationship would look like through the years (because really, how could we?). But, in our minds, this would be similar to what our open adoption is like. Photos, emails, and texts are sent both ways. And visits will also happen. When it comes to Baby MPB’s open adoption we don’t have a set schedule of communication, we just ebb and flow. For example, so far with Baby MPB photos/emails/texts are sent when we have time – sometimes a few a week, and other times a few a month. And visits will happen when we have the money and time to travel and it works for Baby MPB’s birth mother too.
We know this relationships wouldn’t be the same as Baby MPB’s open adoption relationships, because let’s be honest, no two relationships are identical. But, we would want to know that there would be a possibility of a relationship.
The way we look at it, our family is never going to be conventional – we have a beautiful son through open adoption and we view his biological family as part of our extended family. And, if we do this, we figure our extended family would also grow again.
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