I don’t know what the future will look like, but I know as of right now Mr. MPB and I want contact and so does our birth mom.
I see her as part of our family. Honestly, how could I not? She gave life to our son, the son that she has so graciously shared with us.
And so, we will make an effort to go back and visit. It’s highly unlikely she will be able to visit us (at least at this point in time), but we will definitely visit her.
The distance is surprisingly great considering we live on the same continent and our countries share the 49th parallel. And the Canadian dollar is incredibly low and our adoption debt is rather high. So, I honestly don’t know when we will be able to afford a visit, but I know we are already saving for one.
So, for now we text and email. I send photos as often as I reasonably can. I have already sent a package to her and know I will send more in the future.
Long term, I hope we all continue to have a relationship. Of course, this is dependent on her wanting to continue having a relationship. I cannot force her to be involved if she ever decides not to be.
And, I also cannot guarantee that Baby MPB will always want a relationship with her. Should our son one day decide he doesn’t want contact, at an appropriate age, I don’t believe we would force him to.
I guess, like so many relationships in life, all I can do is work hard to lay a strong foundation now with my daily actions and hope that it all works out in the future. I hope, I really hope, we all find a way to navigate any bumps in the road that we encounter along the way.
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