The Next Steps
After our phone call the next steps were laid out to us pretty clearly.
- We all let the social worker know that we are still interested in moving forward. Both Mr. MPB and I and the birth mom have to let the social worker know. This is done.
- The lawyer contacts the potential birth father to terminate his parental rights. (Birth father can choose to terminate their rights during the pregnancy, birth mother cannot until after delivery and their timeline varies from state to state.)
- There are about a billion more steps after this, but I’m trying to focus on small incremental steps as to prevent becoming overwhelmed.
If the lawyer cannot terminate birth father rights, we will walk away. We are not interested in pursuing an adoption where a birth father wants to parent. That’s not how we want to create our family. And practically, we are not interested in the legal bills that would go along with such a fight.
And so, now wait to find out what happens with the potential birth father. At the same time we will continue to talk to the birth mom and work to build our relationship.
And more than anything we continue to hope that the pieces keep falling into place.
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