The Whole Truth (Almost)

Yesterday, I wrote about our divine weekend away in the mountains.  And then last night, I re-read my post and I realized, I fell into a social media trap that I work so hard to avoid.

You see, I only shared the good stuff about our weekend – spending our days in nature, catching up with old friends, chasing Little MPB around, etc.  I shared this magnificent photo, which was a true reflection of the lake we spent our weekend by – we were truly surrounded by nature at its finest.

But what’s missing, and I’m sure you’ll notice if you go back and read, I never mentioned Mr. MPB* or I in this post.  I did this without much thought at the time because I was focusing on the good parts of the weekend.  But, in reality, I think I was also ignoring/not acknowledging the downside of our weekend.  The reality that made our weekend in the mountains not so divine.

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So, here’s the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.  On the drive to the lake, on Friday afternoon, I may have said something kind of mean to Mr. MPB (Okay, maybe not the whole truth because I’m not going to tell you what I said.  I don’t want to air all our dirty laundry or embarrass myself in front of anyone who might read this).

Anyways, I’ve apologized profusely almost immediately.  What I said was not the appropriate way to say what I was trying to say.

But now, it’s Tuesday, 4 days later, and I’m still living with 1 word statements/answers from Mr. MPB (unless it has to do with Little MPB, then he’ll give me a few more words if necessary).  I understand that it wasn’t a conversation we were going to have while hanging out with our friends all weekend.  But I can assure you there were multiple awkward moments for me when Mr. MPB wouldn’t respond to a question I asked or wouldn’t talk to me outside of polite group conversations.

And now, we’ve been home for a few days and yet the silence continues even though we’ve had ample time to talk.  I’ve tried talking to him, I’ve even told him at some point he’s going to have to talk to me in real sentences again, and I got essentially nothing in response.

It’s clear he’s still seethingly angry at me.

But I can tell you, the 4 days silent treatment has given me a lot of time to think.  Honestly, probably too much time.  My main decision is that, I’m done apologizing.  I’ve apologized with sincerity multiple times because I made a mistake and I acknowledge that I made a mistake.  But, I cannot change what I said, it’s up to us to be adults about the situation to move past it.  However, based on his current lack of words he clearly isn’t ready to move past it and is not accepting my apology, and I’m not part parrot which means I’m not going to obsessively repeat myself.  Therefore, I’m done apologizing.

So, I guess for now, I’m just assuming that the never-ending silent treatment is going to have to end eventually.  And until then, I’m just going to keep doing my thing (working, playing with and caring for Little MPB, helping out around the house, etc.) until he decides he either wants to move past this or he wants to talk about it.

*Please be aware that I am not looking for people to gang up on Mr. MPB.  Honestly, I was in the wrong.  And while I’m deeply annoyed by his silent treatment clearly he is taking time to process his response.  And even though I don’t like it, I have to accept it.

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17 Comments on “The Whole Truth (Almost)

  1. well, such is true love . We stick together to say mean things to each other! We need someone to show off our worst, so be thankful for Mr. MPB 🙂
    Am sure you guys will move past this hiccup.. meanwhile, have fun stewing both of you 🙂

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  2. Appreciate your honesty and hope he comes around soon. Maybe even a fun makeup romp in the bedroom 😉

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  3. Yeah honesty!!! I do dumb things all the time, and my husband has a hard time letting it go even after my sincere apologies. I think your response to his response is perfect. I totally empathize with your very honest and real marriage.

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  4. I’m sorry. It’s hard. Cuz though you acknowledged you were the one in the wrong. And have apologized. The silent treatment can be seen as he wants to make sure when he does speak to you that he doesn’t say something outta being angry or hurt. Risking hurting you. And I’m sure he doesn’t wanna do that. Giving him time is good. He’ll come around. And you two will get through this. ((Hugs))

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  5. This is definitely a typical male move to make. My husband is the same. Usually he lets it go within a day, but occasionally it’s gone on a bit longer. Eventually these things just wear off and Mr MPB will come to his senses and realize that you have apologized profusely and that he has no reason to hold on to it anymore. Marriage is hard. everyone is bound to say something they shouldn’t have at some point. Things like this are hard to navigate but you guys have been through a lot of tough times together and always come out still loving one another at the other end, so this is just another speed bump. He’ll come around 🙂 ps: i think every time we have gone camping in the last few months my husband and I have had stupid arguments where we have both said things we shouldn’t have. seems to be part of the camping “experience” haha

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  6. Ah yes. My mother was queen of the silent treatment. I believe one lasted two months–and I was her child! I get needing time to process–but then it’s time to move on . . .

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  7. I’m sorry you’re going through a rough patch right now. I will say, usually it’s me that gives the silent treatment. Not to be a jerk, but because sometimes I just need time to think about things and make sure I really want to say what I think I want to say. It doesn’t usually last more than a day or 2 though. I hope he comes around soon.

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  8. Oh no, I’m sorry you guys are in a sticky spot right now. You do seem to have a very good relationship though so I feel like you will work your way to the other side of this. Good luck!

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  9. Thanks for being honest! Chris gets like this once in a blue moon too. We get over these things differently…He does silence, I do talking through it.

    Hope the silent treatment ends soon!!!

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  10. I have to say I kinda do that when I’m upset… but it’s not ’cause I’m mad, it’s mostly because if I’m sad I lose the strength to talk. But then again, I am a crazy person, so, there’s THAT.

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  11. I love how honest you are and how maturely you handle things. You’ve accepted your responsibility for your actions and apologized but you also recognize that Mr. MPB isn’t over it yet and know that the rest of us shouldn’t be putting his head on a platter. It’s refreshing compared to some of the dirty laundry type stuff some couples put on fb. Love you and hope he comes around soon!

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