Medical Care

Last week I spent 24 hours in the hospital for a breast reduction.  The care I received was nothing short of phenomenal.  (In fact, of everyone who cared for me I only disliked one student doctor who simply didn’t exhibit any signs of confidence in herself which is not what a patient wants prior to going into surgery).

The plastic surgeon and his team were fantastic.  I didn’t even feel awkward as 3 doctors stared at my naked chest to paint me prior to surgery.

The anesthetist was phenomenal and compassionate as I shared my fears and cried while she knocked me out.

The surgical nurses were amazing. One in particular was supportive as I cried waiting for surgery.

The post-op nurses were fantastic and took great care of me all night long, including when I almost passed out on my first mandatory walk (fun times).

I was absolutly shocked that everyone was so amazing.  Then I realized that in the last 3 or 4 year of my life I have had nothing but horrible medical care.  My Reproductive Endocrinologist and his entire team treated me and Mr. MPB poorly.  Every single time I went into that infertility clinic or to the hospital for a miscarriage I was treated like an inconvenience.  And, I always felt judged when I showed emotion over the loss of another baby.  I felt like I was nothing more then a paycheque to them and I strongly believe their advice was based on their profit margins not on modern medical research. So, I guess I came to expect this type of sub-par treatment.

So, needless to say, when I was treated well last week, I was shocked. When I showed emotion they were all there for me.  When I was scared, they all calmed me down.  When I had to review my past medical history and surgeries (i.e sharing about 5 losses in detail), they all offered their condolences.  They even all played with Baby MPB when he visited prior to surgery.

I guess what struck me more then anything is that I was treated with compassion and dignity.

I think I thanked the nurses about 1000 times each for being so nice to me.

And while I truly appreciate how amazing everyone treated me last week, I cannot help but think about how this compares to my infertility experiences.  It’s an absolute crime that I was treated so poorly by my fertility clinic and team who was supposed to help us.

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9 Comments on “Medical Care

  1. I am so glad you had this good experience but how awful that it is only highlighted by your previous poor care. I can only imagine how much that added to an already horrendous situation. Lots of love and healing sent your way.

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  2. I’m glad you finally had a good medical experience!! There’s no reason why you should have been treated that way before, ESPECIALLY by your RE and their staff, who should KNOW that it’s a touchy and emotional time for people!! I’m sorry you had to go through all that. I hope you’re healing quickly and feeling much better this week, and able to hold baby again soon!!

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  3. I am so very glad that all went well. Wishing that your other medical experiences could have had the same level of compassion and care……… Thinking of you and sending good thoughts for a speedy recovery.

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  4. I am so happy your experience was phenomenal. I am a nurse and it is so so important for patients to feel comfortable and supported by their medical team, no matter what stage of their journey they are in. It just makes me so sad you did not receive compassionate care for RPL. I am sending you warm wishes for continued healing! Hugs!!


  5. It’s heartbreaking that after everything you’ve been through on the fertility front, THIS is what it took for you to have a positive experience with healthcare. ❤

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  6. What a wonderful, healing experience. Dignity and compassion goes such a long way. I don’t know why there is so much of it missing in infertility.

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    • I really don’t understand why caregivers in the infertility world aren’t more compassionate? I think the mental health impacts of IF/RPL are so critical and yet so overlooked!


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