Our Approach to the Home Study
We have made a decision on how to approach our home study.
We will be ourselves through and through. For better or worse.
- We will not be cleaning our house beyond what we normally do. We will probably make an effort to make our bed that day, but that’s about it. I have no intention of cleaning our storage room or our garage. I will not be re-folding clothing in our closet. I will not be cleaning the inside of our cupboards. And, I can guarantee that Mr. MPB will not be cleaning either.
- We will not do anything different with our dog then we would if we were having friends over for dinner. No Benadryl (although I thought it was a great ide) and no crate. She is a well behaved dog, so we are going to let he be herself. If she acts up we will put her in the other room, just like we would if we had friends or family over.
- We will be honest about anything she asks – no lying from us, which is probably best because neither of us are good liars and the social worker would probably see straight through us. We will talk openly about my mom and sister, our recurrent pregnancy loss, our decision to adopt, why we have virtually no children things in our house and the social worker can hear all about our sex lives if they decide to ask. Yes, some things might be awkward (i.e. discussing our sex lives with a perfect stranger), and some things may be hard and emotional (i.e. our baby losses). But I also suspect some things will be fun to discuss, like why we love each other and why we’ve chose to spend our lives together. We will be honest and open.
Ultimately we believe that they will like us. But either way, we will not try to influence the outcome any more then we can by just being ourselves. And therefore, they will either approve us or they will not and we will live with the outcome.
We’ve made the decision that we’d prefer to be approved for who we are, rather than for who we think they want us to be.
So, we will be ourselves and see where the cards land.
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