A Doctor Who Gets IT
In the last 2 and half years of my life I have seen more doctors then I care to try to count. If I were to make a guess on how many doctor’s I’ve seen and spoken with, I’d guess it has to be over well over 100, maybe even 200. (I’d be afraid to even guess how many support staff I’ve also encountered). Each one of these types of doctors has seen as through one or more pregnancy and/or miscarriage, and I have seen countless doctors of each specialty:
Emergency Room Doctors
Obstetrics and Gynecologists
Each one of these doctors has left a lasting impact on us. Some we remember fondly – I adore my family doctor, he has been an amazing source of support throughout each one of our losses. Some we do not remember fondly – I am still harbouring enough anger at our local RE, so much so that my anger likely is not considered healthy. Others, we appreciate – our RI, Dr. Braverman, who was able to speak with us honestly and turn our unexplained recurrent pregnancy loss into explained recurrent pregnancy loss.
But today, I want to share my most recent appointment with my local Immunologist. This guy focuses on allergies and asthma, but has been awesome and creative as we searched for an explanation for our losses.
I met with him to share our results from Dr. Braverman. He had expressed an interest, and I am more than happy to share our results with a doctor locally who wants to learn from them. (I feel the need to point out that only my family doctor and my immunologist were interested, our local RE seemed to be of the perspective that he knows best and doesn’t need to waste his time so we didn’t even offer him the results).
So, when I met with my local immunologist this was he perspective:
- He adores that there are doctors who are working in more “experimental” ways – in his opinion this is desperately needed so that innovation and medical treatments advance.
- Based on how he knows my immunology history, he agrees with Dr. B’s report. While he knows nothing about endometriosis, he does know that my allergic reactions, and thought the analysis done by Dr. B made sense with my past history (i.e. my analysis did not show strong allergic reactions).
He even made constructive suggestions about how to possibly get the treatment we need covered in Canada. Evidently he could refer me to a doctor outside of the province on the basis of wanting a second opinion as the expertise available here is not proving useful. The process to get approved may be slow, but evidently this would get a consult appointment paid for. Procedures wouldn’t be paid for, but at least I could get a consult to discuss this with an RE outside of our province to see what they think – possibly the RE/RI in Ontario.
And ultimately, I told him our decision to stop trying based on the risks of all medications I’d be taking; the lack of intralipids in our province; the risky financial costs of surgery out of country/province if there is a problem; the emotional toll it would take on both Mr. MPB and I; and, our slim chances of success even with surgery. He said to me, that he understand our decision. He did not try to push anything else on me, he was compassionate and understanding.
My immunologist goes down as one of the best doctors I’ve encountered locally. The system may be broken at times, but there are still good doctors who are willing to support their patients in a time of need.
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