Adoption Finalization Update
I feel like I’m due for an adoption process update.
As per normal the adoption process causes me nothing but stress and anxiety.
Except….when our lawyer said that possible unknown birth father rights weren’t terminated. Then, I had a mini-meltdown on the phone. Thankfully, he realized what he said and took the time to talk me off the ledge and re-explained what he said in much better language. What he meant to say is that the paperwork is actually confirming that the possible known birth father rights were voluntarily terminated and that the state’s law automatically terminates any other unknown birth father’s rights after 30 days. So, clearly, we are passed the 30 day mark and no-one can try to claim Baby MPB.
Anyways, other then that one minor heart-attack inducing hiccup ,the adoption finalization stuff doesn’t really get to me. Thankfully.
We have all the adoption costs tallied, all the paperwork signed and submitted, and all our agencies and lawyers have also completed their necessary paperwork. So, as of now all our paperwork has been submitted to the courts! Now, we just wait for a court date for the adoption finalization. We have no idea when the date will be, it could be anytime in the next 2ish months, 4ish months, or 6ish months or potentially even longer for all we know. (We are told the family court’s priority is emergency situations where children are at risk. Which means we are not a priority and so we wait, which makes sense in my mind).
In all likelihood we wont be required to travel for the adoption finalization as our lawyers will represent us. But, I’m trying to convince Mr. MPB we should attend – to be present at the finalization would be pretty amazing. Somehow I think it would be a beautiful way to end this story of becoming a family. To actually stand before the judge just seems more…..I don’t know the right word….but it sounds like a much more amazing experience then having our lawyer call us afterwards and say it’s done.
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