What Happens Next?
Now that the relinquishment timeline has passed, we are left asking ourselves (and our lawyers and agency) what happens next?
The simple answer is we have absolutely no idea.
We’d love to get to go home ASAP, but one thing we know forsure is that international adoption is not quick. And while the complete lack of certainty is driving us insane we are trying to embrace it because we really don’t have any choice.
We think we have to fly to another state before we can go home, but even that isn’t figured out. And the timing isn’t determined until ICPC (inter-state adoption rules) is approved.
We are told once the legal process starts to get us to Canada, it should be quick. But it cannot start until ICPC is approved. And of course, we have no guarantees. And the number of players involved including USA judges, Canadian approval and the incompetent agency makes it hard to believe this dance will go well. Something tells me no pirouette’s will be executed without at least a stumble, and possibly even a fall on the face.
Honestly, what we do know already is that things are about to get more complicated, not less. It’s very likely that I will not share the chaos we are enduring right now. I want to, and even though I blog anonymously, I simply cannot say or do anything that could potentially upset any of the players involved who have more power then we do. I have to play by their rules at leas for now. This also means I cannot share where we are now or where we are going next. (Thank you to everyone who has offered us help , just the offer is amazing, and shockingly still no-one is near us!!)
All of this said, I just keep reminding myself that no-matter what happens in the next few weeks, I know we can handle it because we are going home as a family of 3!
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