Being Reproductively Challenged Today
I am thankful I am reproductively challenged today.
Yes, I just said that. And clearly, that comment goes down in the category of thing I never thought I’d say/write, because heck, I never even thought I’d be reproductively challenged, let alone thankful for something related to it.
But, hear me out. There is logic behind this thought.
Imagine being infertile in the 1900s, or even the 1960s. Imagine having virtually no medical experts able to help. Imagine having absolutely no support from you extended family and friends. Imagine having a miscarriage in the barn out back. Or imagine having no scientific support to help make it happen – the first baby conceived through IVF did not happen until 1978! Imagine not having IVF as an option. Imagine not having the option of a gestational carrier. Imagine not being able to figure out how quickly beta’s should drop. Imagine how much worse it could be. Imagine…
While many of us may feel isolated today, if nothing else, we do have an online community where people share their experiences and we all bond through our unique struggles. We support one another. We love one another. We cheer each other on through the good and the bad.
Some of us, like me and Mr. MBP, fit into odd and obscure categories and percentages that make our specific experiences relatively rare (i.e. RPL is 1% of infertile couples). And it is only through the internet that we find others who understand our unique circumstances. I remember when we had our 4th miscarriage and our RE said to us you will likely never meet another person who has been through 4 miscarriage (how nice of him to point out just how isolating RPL is). But thanks to the internet I was able to connect with a few women who know my unique journey, and even more women (and men) who know the struggles of wanting a family and not being able to achieve one the traditional non-scientific way. And thanks to my blog and twitter friends and easily accessible internet research we are able to connect with the best doctors that understand our unique circumstances.
Thanks to the internet I have been able to connect with others evaluating and choosing different route to parenthood (i.e. gestational carrier / surrogate, adoption, childfree). Whenever we’ve made a decision we have had the luxury of learning from people who have been there before. We have had the luxury of receiving advice and comments from many people. And I cannot neglect to mention the modern day luxury of easily accessible academic information.
Imagine how isolating and lonely that experience would have been years ago? Honestly, I cannot. And, I am thankful I cannot.
So, today, I am thankful that if I have to be reproductively challenged, that I am today. I am thankful that I am not alone. Even when I feel alone, you guys and gals remind me that I am not.
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