Here is my first week partaking in #100happydays. I figure partaking in this, is a great idea to remind me of all the happy things going on in my life.

Just a quick reminder that I created my own rules.

  1. Photos must be taken on my Pentax K5 digital SLR, not the camera on Samsung phone. Since we spent a lot of money on the camera and it takes awesome photos, I want to force myself to use it more, and this seems like a great way to do it.
  2. I may not take photos every day. Although I think my dog would be worthy of daily photos, I don’t want to end up taking photos of our dog just to say I took a photo that day. I sort of suspect I might end up taking photos every day since I’m not very good at half committing to something – but either way, I’m not going to stress about it).
  3. I may or may not post all my photos on my blog. And there is no set schedule to when I will share the photos I take.

Day 1 – July 7, 2014: We live in a very sunny part of the world, and I love cloud free, sunny summer days with green leafs on the trees. The colors are vibrant and the weather is awesome.

20140714 - 100HappyDays - Week1_1Day 2 – July 8, 2014: We had really ripe fresh nectarines that needed to be eaten. Combine with some ice, some strawberries, milk and yogurt and a dash of honey and voilà – fresh fruit smoothies.

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Day 3 – July 9, 2014: Wedding present wrapping. I love weddings – really, how can you not love weddings considering the hope and optimism that is associated with a wedding. Combine a wedding with my love of finding the perfect gift and my crazy passion for wrapping presents (I think I like present wrapping more than most sane people). I am known to wrap presents weeks and sometimes even months before the actual gift giving date, simply because I love wrapping presents. I love transforming a special gift into a beautiful box full of anticipation and surprise for the recipient. 20140714 - 100HappyDays - Week1_3Day 4 – July 10, 2014: Yes, that’s right, these are my  new every day sandals with fresh nail polish. The fact that I have new yellow sandals (as opposed to my normal color choice of black or brown) and fresh nail polish makes it a very happy camera worthy moment.

20140714 - 100HappyDays - Week1_4Day 5 – July 11, 2014: I went for a lovely walk around a lake with 2 amazing friends. One has known about our struggles (and has been pretty awesome), and the other did not know, only because I haven’t seen her in a while and it wasn’t something I wanted to share via text message. So, I told her, the three of us talked a lot about everything going on and she sent me a lovely text message later on saying “….thanks for sharing. You are an amazing, strong and brave women” – she was totally awesome and I know she will continue to be supportive of us whatever happens next.

20140714 - 100HappyDays - Week1_5Day 6 – July 12, 2014: An evening BBQ and campfire with friends. Need I say more?

20140714 - 100HappyDays - Week1_6Day 7 – July 13, 2014: My fresh herb garden. We built this garden ourselves earlier in the spring using things we had around the house (an extra piece of wood, screws, pipe clamps, some rocks, dirt and mason jars). 5 of my 6 herbs have actually grown from seed, and soon enough I’ll be able to start cooking with them. Here’s to garden fresh dill, mint, basil, thyme, and sage!

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At my last appointment with my psychologist, she challenged me to celebrate my successes, both small and large. But for me, this challenge was really about getting me to celebrate the small success in life.

I’ve never been one to think about small successes – I only do things big and right. Remember that old saying, go big or go home? Well, that pretty much summarizes my attitude to life. I’m used to big successes – obtaining my undergraduate degree; obtaining my master degree; completing a professional certificate; achieving my professional designation; securing new clients; winning new work through competitive bid processes; achieving a top bonus within my corporation; successfully completing large projects; etc. You’ll note there all these successes that I have always defined myself by are professional achievements. Anyways, this is now pretty much impossible, at least until I got back to the corporate world.

So, up until recently, the biggest failure in my life was when I failed a pop quiz in grade 5. And now, I’ve experienced some major failures, and life has been focusing on failure rather than successes (5 recurrent miscarriages will do that to a person).

So, in an effort to celebrate my small successes, I thought I’d write a list this week and share it at the end of the week.

So here is my list of successes for the week:

  • Write my blog hop post. I have no idea, why, but I had been procrastinating on writing it. So, it’s done and it’s posted. Thanks again to My Hope Jar for the awesome nomination.
  • My husband and I made coleslaw from scratch. Really not that challenging at all, but we had never made it before. I suspect we made enough to feed the entire Canadian Army.
Yummy Coleslaw.

Yummy Coleslaw.

  • I actually took daily #100happyday photos. This is awesome because it meant I had to remember to take my camera with me and get some photos. (FYI – another rule is that I’m refusing to use the camera on my Samsung phone. We own an awesome Digital SLR, so this gives me an excuse to use it. But, this also means it takes more effort to remember to get a photo). Also, I’ll share these soon.
  • I watered the gardens on a regular basis all week which means no plants died as a result of our current hot weather.  (They may drown from over water, but at least I tried).
I think this is the start of some delicious zucchini, but it might be cucumber.  I clearly cannot remember and now i have to wait until September to find out.

I think this is the start of some delicious zucchini, but it might be cucumber. I clearly cannot remember so I have to wait until September to find out.

  • I research and bought a new weed whacker so that I can actually weed whack from now on (the old one sucks so badly that I have refuse to use it for 2 years, and since the long grass along the garage and fence have taken over, I determined that my husband apparently has also deemed it too frustrating to use). I guess once it arrives next week, I have no excuse so weed whacking gets added to my weekly to-do list.
  • I received a Certificate of Appreciation from my professional organization for all my volunteering in 2013. Funny, I’ve been volunteering with them for the past 8 years, and it’s not until I stepped down, that they acknowledged all my efforts.
  • Our super secrete awesome project is proceeding very well. We’ve been working on it constantly for more than 2 weeks now, and have at least a few more weeks to go. (More on the super secrete awesome project later, I’m sure I’ll eventually do a reveal with before and after photos).
    • I finished cleaning our super secrete awesome project.
    • I found a hard to find part. I had not been able to find this particular part, so I was totally stoked when my search was successful.
    • We placed an order for parts from the US. The cost of shipping is nearly as much as the cost of the items, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do! I’m so excited for the supplies to arrive so our work can progress.
  • I bought sandals. 2 pairs actually. One pair is for a cocktail wedding reception (i.e. standing for hours on end) in a few weeks, so finding flats to match my dress that were not ugly, was rather hard to do. The other pair was simply because it was time for a new pair of everyday sandals. I knew it was time when my husband suggested I buy a pair – it is not a good sign when you husband deems your sandals as ugly. This is a success because I actually spent money on something for myself. I never do this.
Sandals to match my dress.  A little girly for my liking, but it is a wedding, so I should dress it up just a bit.

Sandals to match my dress. A little girly for my liking, but it is a wedding, so I should dress it up just a bit.

  • I cleaned up dog vomit from my bedroom floor (how nice of her to puke on carpet right next to where I sleep) and 2 days later I cleaned up dog diarrhea from my living room floor (thankfully this time she stayed away from the carpet and went in a hardwood – so much easier to clean up).  Now if only I can figure out what is causing her to be sick, but since she hasn’t lost her doggy mojo I’m not too worried yet.
  • I made supper nearly every night without any major catastrophes (i.e. nothing was burnt beyond recognition and most things tasted decent enough). Poutine (the French Canadian version of french fries, gravy and cheese curds – as gross as it sounds, its pretty awesome); steak and potatoes; turkey burgers; etc.
  • I bought and mailed a gift to a very dear friend who just had her second child, a baby girl. For obvious reasons this one was a bit hard to do, but it’s done. And as an added bonus, by putting it in the mail, I’ve delayed the obligatory visit for at least a few weeks (I hope).
  • I put a new muffler put into my husbands vehicle.  By this I mean, I drove his vehicle to a muffler shop, where I then paid someone much more qualified then me to put in a new muffler while I waited patiently.
  • Folded laundry. I have no problem washing it, but I absolutely hate folding it. There is at any given time more unfolded clean laundry in our room then dirty laundry waiting to be washed. Anyways, I got that done and off my list until next time when I let the hampers of clean laundry take over.

First, let me say just writing this list has been a huge challenge for me all week. I’ve never viewed these types of things as successes. I found it hard to acknowledge something like cleaning a success. To me that’s just a requirement of life, nothing to celebrate.

So, when I look at this list, I think the wrong conclusion for me to draw, is…well isn’t that pathetic. I think my psychologist would be disappointed with me if I left it at this – although, she probably wouldn’t be surprised that this is the conclusion I’d reach.

So, I’ll dig a bit deeper and force myself to think a bit harder about what this list really means.

  1. I think the list is about helping change my perspective on what a success really is and what really matters. About lowering the insane standards I’ve put in place for myself. (I completely acknowledge that I have astronomically high standards for myself, and until this whole baby thing, I’d done a pretty good job of meeting and exceeding them).
  2. I’m sure there is a lesson in here about not defining myself by my career, and looking at life more holistically. Living a more balanced life where work doesn’t always matter more than everything else.
  3. I think this definitely relates back to my work to accept living messy. Accepting that not every accomplishment has to be enormous, and giving myself space to have small success when life is a bit messier.
  4. Oh, and there has to be some sort of lesson in here about focusing on positives and not always being surrounded by the negativity that recurrent pregnancy loss creates. Yup, I’m absolutely sure this is part of the take-away lesson from this exercise.

Honestly though, I’m not sure how I feel about this, because if I look at this list, I don’t see anything really meaningful. I see things that are just a normal part of my life. And more than anything, in the process of writing this list all week long, I really did look the list as pathetic. I simply don’t consider things like cleaning up dog vomit, making supper or mowing the lawn to be a success. I am not meant to be a homemaker (kudos to those who are, but it’s just not for me). I am meant to be part of the corporate world, and to hire someone to do my household chores that I deem undesirable.

So, what did this actually result in? It pushed me to apply for a job – I have been eying it for a few weeks, and the closing date was approaching. It was time to act. I’m not one to watch life just pass me by, and this looked like something too good to pass up. It looks really cool and on the very fringes of my profession, and something I have loved in the past. I’m not stressing about it either way, but I figure I better at least throw my name in and see where the cards fall and make decisions accordingly.

I think applying for a job means I failed the exercise….

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