Reframing the Problem
My struggle with my job continues – to quit or not to quit?
Someone said something to me today that really helped. He pointed out that every time I talk about my decision, I keep using the terminology of “walking away from my company and career”. When in fact, what he hears is that I’m looking to take care of myself. And maybe something that would help, is if I stop looking at it through the guilt-laden perspective of what others will think of my choices. Yes, there will always be people who don’t agree or don’t understand but I cannot change that. But, what I can change is my perspective and so maybe it’s time to reframe the situation to start putting my health, both physical and emotional, as the priority.
Now, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard this – just ask my Psychologist (I can see her smiling if she were to read this). She’s been trying to tell me this for a while. But, somehow his terminology just clicked for me today.