Slowing Down
I’ve hit my limit. I cannot keep up the pace that we are currently functioning at. It’s just not possible.
Yet, I look at our calendars and I realize as much as I need to slow down, life isn’t going to give us a break:
- Sept 24-25 – booked. Family visiting and staying with us.
- Oct 1-2 – booked. Mr. MPB is away.
- Oct 8-9 – booked. Friends visiting and staying with us.
- October 15-16 – booked. Away for a mini-family reunion.
- October 21-23 – Long weekend away just the 4 of us (Mr. MPB, Baby MPB, dog MPB and I).
- October 29-30 – booked. Mr. MPB is away.
And somewhere in there we have to make time to visit our new niece who lives a few hours away. And we have to hire a new nanny and continue to work to pay the bills. Oh, and we also probably have that family member sporadically staying with us as they deal with their own difficult situation.
I don’t even have the courage to look at our November calendar. We simply cannot keep this pace up, and I honestly have no desire to.
In an attempt to settle things down I looked at what we can cancel. And the sad reality is that the only thing we can get rid of is our family weekend in the mountains. Clearly we aren’t cancelling that since it should be mostly fun.
I just don’t know how to get life back to a point where I feel like I can just relax and just enjoy being.
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I know this feeling. It is so important to have your calendar full of things and people that breath life into you not exhaust you so my recommendation would be to see if there is anyone on there that doesn’t fit that bill then politely reschedule. Hope the events surprise you with how fun they are!
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This is exactly how I feel right now! This past weekend I was hoping I would be able to relax and vegetate…but we ended up being out running errands and getting the last of our baby stuff ALL WEEKEND!! Between work, Dr appts, normal daily chores (that keep getting pushed to the side), and getting the last stuff organized,washed and put away for Cadence, I feel like I’m living in a whirlwind. I can’t wait for her to get here, not just because she’ll be here, but because it will force me to slow down and take care of her and myself. I’m exhausted, and I need a break! (They wanted me to schedule my postpartum appt at my OB today, and I told them I couldn’t think that far in advance right now!) I hope you’re able to get through the next month okay. I’ll be running right along with you!
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WORD. My past month has been so off-the-rails busy, that I took a day to work from home… and promptly passed out on the couch in front of my keyboard. (Judge, but better than doing that at my desk. Or at least that’s how I rationalize it.) It was impacting my health in a bunch of ways, and was a major wake up call for myself. Did that stop me from having a totally manic weekend? Er… no.
Sadly, I have no words of wisdom. Just a whole lotta solidarity.
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Holy cow that is an incredibly packed schedule! It is so incredibly hard to please everyone. I hope you can find some much needed time to just be with your family (aside from your family vacation coming up…those are super important). Good luck!
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Yes, this is a familiar feeling! I am constantly trying to evaluate our schedule and what we are planning so we don’t overbook. It’s hard work! Maybe try to not join in every activity with the guests or family visits so you get some quiet time. That’s something I have recently done that helps a lot. Getting even a small break can be very rejuvenating. Xo
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I totally get this…as our calendar has been looking like that too. Praying that you can find some rest and relaxation in there and some time to just be home with Mr and Baby MPB. Love to you, Friend!!!
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Eeeeep! That is a crazy schedule coming up!!
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I hope you are able to find a balance that is right for you
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I sympathize as I have been a working mom–over-scheduled and trying to keep all the balls in the air. When you get overwhelmed, think about the many families where there is no dad and mom has to work several part-time jobs. The name of the game is basic survival. Anything else is icing. Blessings to you as you work through all this. It sounds like you are a very caring, family centered person trying to make hard choices. It will all work out. Enjoy your little one!
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It’s hard to slow down when the ball gets rolling, it will feel like Christmas is upon you in no time 😠don’t give up your mountain holiday though – hopefully you can get some respite there to reset yourself for the rest of the year.
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I had a melt down today about being over booked and exhausted! No solution here just feeling your pain! Hugs.
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I have no kids and a very supportive partner. And still, I know the feeling. But I am a caceller, as soon as it comes to private or family activities. If I can’t make it, I’d rather not do it.
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That looks like a stressful fall schedule. Our summers look like that and even before baby I found them very stressful. I agree with another commenter – if anyone can be rescheduled, it might be worth it. Take a self-care weekend. It’s important to be social and maintain social supports, but I believe it’s also important to try to get slowed down moments with baby MPB so time doesn’t go so fast through his early years. Good luck making it through this busy season 🙂
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