Just Another Crazy Wife

  Posted on July 21, 2015 By

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We love with everything we have in us.  We love our children.  We love our parents.  We love our friends, our pets and our neighbours.  Oh, and our spouses too.

And so we hurt when these people fall short.  When we love, we tend to expect the same compassion back.  And so, when they don’t meet our expectations and we end up licking our wounds in the corner.  Or at least, this is my experience.

And so what happens when we are the crazy and out of line ones?  What happens when we, or rather I, am less then my best?

Lets just use an event that occurred in the MPB household this weekend as an example.  We had friends coming over this weekend for dinner.  One of my dearest friends who is an amazing women whom I respect and admire (not today’s point, but something worth mentioning because she’s just one of those people).  So, we were picking up the clutter in the house and I had it in my head that we had to finish unpacking and putting away everything since our basement flood.  Mr. MPB didn’t see the point on finishing up the basement.  His priority was the backyard and the main floor with the kitchen and the living room.  You know, the space that we would actually be using with our friends.

Needless to say, our differing opinions didn’t seamlessly mesh into one to-do list nor did we divide and conquer.

Instead, I didn’t keep my calm and nor did he.  Needless to say, every single communication technique and successful arguing strategy went out the window and I had a small meltdown.  Yup, we were shouting and I was almost in tears because Mr. MPB wanted clean the main floor and I wanted to clean the basement.

And then I decided that this was all his fault for not listening to me and he just kept going on about how I was not making any sense.  All I wanted was an apology and instead he told me that wasn’t making sense and he was not going to apologize.  While he was likely 98% right, it’s never a good idea to actually tell me that I’m making no-sense!  Basically, I just ended up even angrier and more irrational.  And then he made the biggest mistake – he realized that our conversation was going no-where and he walked away.  I wasn’t done being crazy, how dare he walk away?!?!!!  And so I got even more upset.

Seriously, I do realize that no-one is perfect, but this wasn’t pretty.  I’d say this was one of my less then ideal moments.

But you know what, eventually we started doing some yard work and I did apologize for being slightly insane.  Maybe the sunshine and/or fresh air helped screw my head back on the right way?  I don’t know, but I’m pretty sure he was happy to have his more balanced and calm wife back.

And you know what, he still loves me and I still love him.

Not every day is perfect, but somehow we manage to see past the crazy.

And some people say PMS isn’t a real thing?!  Ha, if this wasn’t the result of PMS then I should probably be checked into a crazy house.

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44 Comments on “Just Another Crazy Wife”

  1. Oh boy! Aunt Flo sure is visiting you soon..
    My husband and I have these to-do list fights as well. At least you guys tackle yours, ours just remains at stalemate and the list grows on 🙂

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  2. We alllll have moments/days like that! My ‘person’ to unleash my version of crazy on is my best friend. She’s seen me through it all and still loves me, just like Mr. MPB still loves you.

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  4. I’m so relieved to hear that hubby and I aren’t the only ones who fight when we clean house. Seriously, we hardly ever fight, but if we’re cleaning it’s going to happen. I tend to want to charge through and get everything done before taking a break, or at least have a scheduled break together. He takes breaks whenever he pleases. I get so mad when I’m hard at work, and look over and he’s sitting on the computer. Or we’re having guests so I think we need to clean the whole house, and he focuses on changing the water in the fish tank. This post make me feel normal, so thank you for sharing 🙂

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    • I love that you can relate over silly arguments around cleaning. And, I so understand how unscheduled breaks are the worst! Then you are left feeling like the only one doing anything and the resentment builds. Or at least it does for me. What drives me the most crazy is when I’m folding laundry and he doesn’t help – we both hate folding and I usually cave first. 🙂

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      • I can so relate to the laundry thing! We have spare bedrooms, so one of them is delegated to the “no cat room”. This translates to “the place where our laundry will sit in a pile for weeks.” If Hubby had his way, we would never put away our clothes. Half of the time I force him to do the laundry with me, the other half I fold his, and then have to nag him to put the folded clothes away.

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  6. I laughed over this one because it sounds so familiar. My meltdown was over getting oil in one of our cars. Just too much for me. 🙂

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      • Thinking about the crazy meltdown topics almost makes me laugh, because most of the time they really just don’t make sense. I’m glad I’m not the only one who gets this. 🙂

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  8. Oh man can I relate! I have been a hormonal wrecking ball this week. Poor Catch doesn’t even know what to do with me at this point. Fortunately, we know the crazy will pass.

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    • So, I kind of think you are allowed to be a hormonal wreck right now! Much better excuse then me.
      P.S. I’ve been thinking about you. Hope you are doing well.

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  9. My mood never seemed to change until my last MC, now I turn into the She Devil and I want to kill the world for being a complete arse. I know I’m being irrational, I know it’s because it’s ‘that time’ but this knowledge doesn’t stop me from picking holes in everything and making our home life an utter misery. Of course I’m not in the wrong, until my cycle starts. Luckily we spend the next 3 weeks laughing about it, when I stop laughing and start reprimanding him for taking the mickey out of me, he knows it’s on it’s way again 😂 I wonder if this is me for life now?! 😒

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    • I’m sorry you are struggling so much since your last loss – I think I did the same thing too for a long time. It’s hard to figure out how to live when it feels like part of you is missing. And the hormones just make it that much harder!
      I suspect with time you’ll start to feel a bit more balanced. Or at least I really hope you do. Sending you love and wishing you the best.
      (Apologies for not responding sooner – I fell behind this week).

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  11. Ahhh always a relief to discover other happily married couples also have the occassional meltdown over small things. We had a run in a while ago over a plug extension lead that the husband had actually taken apart (instead of calling me to untangle it from the furniture). Oh man. Afterwards we were like “er, sorry for being totally unreasonable back there… that was a bit of an overreaction…” Sigh. As long as we get back on track these things are what we’ll all look back on with fondness when we are ancient 🙂

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    • In a way, the meltdown’s over the small things keep things fun and spontaneous. Okay, maybe not fun in the moment, just fun when you look back and are like “seriously, we just argued over that?!” 🙂

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  14. I definitely relate to this. Hormones are crazy things!! Even when I would know it was the time right before my period and it was probably PMS, it still did not stop me from overreacting with my husband from time to time. It’s too bad the insight of knowing it’s PMS doesn’t reign in the emotions at all!! (Or at least it didn’t for me!!)

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    • I have to agree, knowing its PMS doesn’t help me at all to reign in the emotions! The worst is when I’m actually able to acknowledge in my head what’s going on but then I am unable to reign it in. It’s just crazy! Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone in this. 🙂

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  15. My wife and I are fast apart on the PMS spectrum. My wife gets crazy PMS, lotta crying and getting mad at me for little things. I tend to just get a lot of energy right when my period hits, I love taking in projects around the house then.

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    • Oh, I wish I were the type that has lots of energy and wants to take on projects! That would make my mister pretty happy. Instead, he just gets crazy irrational. 🙂

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  17. I LOST MY MIND a few weeks ago over Brian’s sister’s impending divorce because, “now I’m the only in-law left. Do you know how that feels in your family? Now your mom’s focus will be back on how much she dislikes me since she just ran K out of the family.”. INSANE. Even as I was saying it, I knew I was being crazy. But I couldn’t stop. (for the record, his family is CRAZY and I honestly have no sympathy for his sister. She ran that man out of their marriage.). Because I rarely lose my mind quite so badly, he forgave me quickly.

    We all go crazy once in a while. And I was PMSing too, now that I count backwards. Hmmm…

    😁

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    • The worst is when I know what I’m saying is crazy and yet I cannot seem to stop myself! I hate those moments. I’m glad your man was quick to forgive you, I think that’s what really matters.
      P.S. I think I’d feel the same way if I were to become the only daughter-in-law, so I don’t think you were out of line. I rather like that the focus isn’t solely on me anymore as we live the furthest away. 🙂

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  18. My hand is raised high in the air for being a crazy wife sometimes too. I’m thankful my husband puts up with way more than I deserve but I’m also thankful that he tells me when I’m being unreasonable. Major props to you for coming around the same day and working things out with him. Sometimes, I will drag it out as long as possible lol 🙂 Oh, the joys of marriage – sometimes I don’t understand my crazy emotions.

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  19. We all have our moments!! This sounds SOOOO much like B and I. We argue over the dumbest things sometimes, usually things that just don’t even matter at all. I guess it’s better than arguing over the big stuff…that we can usually handle. I’m glad you guys got things settled though. Hope you had fun with your friends when they got there!

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    • Thanks for reminding me that Mr. MPB and I are not alone in these silly arguments. Like you, we can usually handle the big stuff pretty well and I suspect that’s what really matters. 🙂

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  20. I don’t know what you’re talking about…I would never act that way…and I am never wrong…and I can’t relate to this at all…Okay, I hope you can tell I am being COMPLETELY sarcastic! Hahaha…Oh, and when DH just walks away (which he does so often because he’s a lover, not a fighter) it just infuriates me! I’m like: “I wanna fight, I mean really fight, and you just walked away!” How dare he! LOL If you’re going to the crazy house, we’re sharing a room, sister! 🙂

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    • Oh, like you, I cannot stand when Mr. MPB just walks away! He tried that during this argument and it just sent me further down the crazy hole! 🙂
      I’d love to share a room with you int he crazy house. 🙂

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